Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by marcopit

Her parents took the loan but she the 1 to repay them

why are u angry?do u know that is a very common things in vietnam culture?

I still remember before u go,u mention that u are excited,so are u still excited now

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by marcopit

Well said bro, her parents take over the farm from the previous landlord, so with intrest the amount come up to SGD20K which the balance now abt SGD10K need to repay back to the landlord, that's when she start to come SG work last Nov 2011

I dun get the logic, so where did the ah long fits in???

Forget it, I rather ask u a question, why get involved with a WL??? The money problem will never end.... Maybe next month, her parents get another piece of land or loan another 10k... so it is either u pay or your so called gf will have to work a few more months.

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by marcopit

Thanks for all Samsters, SGD11K, she dont expect me to help her repay the debts but she ask me to allow her to work in clubs to cleared her debts before she change to day time job.

Est 1 mth she can bring home SGD2K so it will takes 6 mths to cleared.

Ask u to marry her and ask u to let her go work in club
U might as well tell her that u need to consult experience sbf brother on this first

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by naemlo

I dun get the logic, so where did the ah long fits in???

Got lah .. her parents borrowed from ah long to take over the farm loh ... from 20k cut down to 10k ... where to get the money sia

without working can cut down 10k .. then work for what

[marcopit]

Originally Posted by Golden question

why dont u forget about her and get on with your life

i know this will be the easiest way out it's not the solution to help our relation anyway i still thinking/waiting for better advise from samsters here

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by shysaint

without working can cut down 10k .. then work for what

it is confusing so rather dun bother.... just curious what so good about her...

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by marcopit

Finally im back from HCM

im totally lost of words to mentioned about my trip

Bro,dont lost of words lah,u have not hear true things that make your jaws drop yet

[skyko]

Originally Posted by marcopit

That's my headache now, should i let her cleared her debts before i marry her

Hi There,

You situation seems to be similiar with mine..let me break down your situation..

loan 11k, As mentioned how to get such large sum of load without any form of warranty for the loan itself? No bank, No Ah Long will lent money without some solid thing in return. There is more than meets the eye for this monies..

From business point of view when things sounds too good to be true it usually is.. Looking from the other side..when things sounds too sad to be ignored your judgement will be clouded by your emotions and it will eventually leads to poor decisions.. find out more about this loan not from them but from 3rd party if you can,get a private investigator like example..

If you look from "LOVE" POV then no man will want their love ones gets hurt..no man wants to share their woman..so you may want to close your mind and help her with the loan BUT dont regret at the end of the day when things dont goes the way you intended..

Just my 5 cents worth of comments..

My decisions in my case..I gave up the relationship because I found out more information from other sources..sad but we always learn and remember pain than pleasure..take care

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by marcopit

i know this will be the easiest way out it's not the solution to help our relation anyway i still thinking/waiting for better advise from samsters here

What Better Advice do you Need

My Advice is take out 12k and pay off the loan and your GF can be the owner of the farm .. like this she no need to come sg work ... after that Marry Her ....

Is this advice good

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by naemlo

it is confusing so rather dun bother.... just curious what so good about her...

just answer for fun loh .. create some spikes for the thread ...

maybe it just another clone telling stories

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by marcopit

i know this will be the easiest way out it's not the solution to help our relation anyway i still thinking/waiting for better advise from samsters here

Maybe we can vote here,

Bro who think he should continue with her-press 1
Bro who think he should leave her-press 2

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by Golden question

Maybe we can vote here,

Bro who think he should continue with her-press 1
Bro who think he should leave her-press 2

I only press Nei Nei ... no press 1 or 2

Anyway .. I already gave him my BesT advice

[skyko]

Originally Posted by Golden question

Maybe we can vote here,

Bro who think he should continue with her-press 1
Bro who think he should leave her-press 2

HAHA, I think tossing a coin is faster! but I think he cant think straight now~ maybe just maybe a vote can do him some good

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by marcopit

i know this will be the easiest way out it's not the solution to help our relation anyway i still thinking/waiting for better advise from samsters here

What advice u need? U love her so much, u incline more towards her story than your logic thinking. So to agree to u, it is either u believe her family story, give her the money or let her continue to work and benefit the rest of the men in SG.

I am a bit CB but it is the truth....

[zion1989]

Originally Posted by marcopit

i know this will be the easiest way out it's not the solution to help our relation anyway i still thinking/waiting for better advise from samsters here

Is true, i really doubt your vb can clear in 6 months unless she go lam tinh every night lar and still must minus the expenses. My advise is dun pay the debts, let her pay on her own. In the meanwhile take this time to think and workout the plan does she really worth it? If you clear her debts and she left u how?