Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by decent02

Some will still ask.
This is to help us understand their mindset.
positive answer means negative.
maybe yes maybe no type of answer means positive... still got chance.
negative answer... very rare from them...still means negative

applicable to many things...not only asking them to be ur gf

if you 4 years still confused...me 8 years lagi confused...

[Gentle Beast]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Yes you are right. Those that go overseas normally CMI. The good ones are always BUSY with business in VN.

When there's a Viet Kieu in the family, its always a bargaining chip. In the village, when they want to arrange for a marriage, they will always try to find a family with Viet Kieu or have daughters married to foreigners. Viet Kieus or daughters married to foreigners are deemed to be ATMs, better than VietcomBank. Normally for a daughter married to foreigner, she also has to pay for the brother's wedding. I have heard and seen so many SGP man paying for the brother-in-laws wedding while the MIL will collect the red packet . Its always many thousands of SGD. When my BIL got married, i told my wife straight that i will not pay for his wedding. if no money, then don't get married. My MIL paid for it. My idea is simple, i will not take my hard -earned money that i saved for my children to be used for my In-Laws to show off. I don't provide the gold to put on their face. Want face? Earn by yourself.

Hi Bro

It appears that Viet culture is mostly about money and face. For one who is soft natured and unable to say 'No' to never ending requests for money and favours, it is going to be pretty stressful - more so for those with limited resources.

I am curious and hope you can provide some insights on my following question. What about the Viets from rich families? Are they also similar when it comes to money matters? Do they expect a foreign husband to match their expectations of money and influence? Or are they genuinely happy for their daugter(s) happily married for love? Thanks for sharing your experiences.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by Gentle Beast

I am curious and hope you can provide some insights on my following question. What about the Viets from rich families? Are they also similar when it comes to money matters? Do they expect a foreign husband to match their expectations of money and influence? Or are they genuinely happy for their daugter(s) happily married for love? Thanks for sharing your experiences.

I had written many times in this topic...

Super filthy rich families will match make their daughters from young...so no chance for their daughters to find love on their own...this is their prerequisites...daughters who rebel will be cut off and left with nothing...till the daughters obey and returned to marry their hand picked hubby...usually another super filthy rich families or powerful politician or army general families..

there are many heart broken stories of super rich family daughters in Singapore getting involved and later forced to break up by their parents to go back Vietnam to marry their match make hubbies...

[decent02]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

if you 4 years still confused...me 8 years lagi confused...

You should not be confused since you người ấn độ.
Yes means no
no means yes
rite

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by decent02

You should not be confused since you người ấn độ.
Yes means no
no means yes
rite

so now armed with skills and knowledge...when we go HCM and look for Diaochan and Wang Zhaojun...kkkk...

4 beauties
xi shi
wang zhaojun
yang guifei
diaochan

người ấn độ only go select Ms Universe...

[Gentle Beast]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

I had written many times in this topic...

Super filthy rich families will match make their daughters from young...so no chance for their daughters to find love on their own...this is their prerequisites...daughters who rebel will be cut off and left with nothing...till the daughters obey and returned to marry their hand picked hubby...usually another super filthy rich families or powerful politician or army general families..

there are many heart broken stories of super rich family daughters in Singapore getting involved and later forced to break up by their parents to go back Vietnam to marry their match make hubbies...

Bro, thanks for your input and views. Again it appears, the Viet culture tends to adopt the Confucian way of life, leaning on filial piety, obedience, respect for elders. I wasn't aware that the rich in Vietnam match make their daughters even to this day until you mentioned it. That said, I can't say Vietnamese ladies are a ''happy lot" even if they are born with a silver spoon.

Perhaps Bro Sing Viet would like to share his views too?

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by Gentle Beast

Bro, thanks for your input and views. Again it appears, the Viet culture tends to adopt the Confucian way of life, leaning on filial piety, obedience, respect for elders. I wasn't aware that the rich in Vietnam match make their daughters even to this day until you mentioned it. That said, I can't say Vietnamese ladies are a ''happy lot" even if they are born with a silver spoon.

Perhaps Bro Sing Viet would like to share his views too?

I did a search and here is one of Singviet post back in 2010...

http://samsforum.asia/showpos...postcount=7951
http://samsforum.asia/showpos...postcount=6833
http://samsforum.asia/showpos...postcount=6432

maybe bro SingViet has new perspective..

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

I did a search and here is one of Singviet post back in 2010...

http://samsforum.asia/showpos...postcount=7951
http://samsforum.asia/showpos...postcount=6833
http://samsforum.asia/showpos...postcount=6432

maybe bro SingViet has new perspective..

Thanks Bro H88 for digging out the old posts. My perspective is still the same.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Thanks Bro H88 for digging out the old posts. My perspective is still the same.

i had followed this thread and contributed since 2008....did remembered we have common perspective in VBs and their cultures...

in fact this thread had so many cases that we had discussed....nice to read up some of the past posts and read them...

[Gentle Beast]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Thanks Bro H88 for digging out the old posts. My perspective is still the same.

Bro Hurricane and SingViet, you guys should write a book with a title like, "Marrying a Vietnamese? Think Again!". I bet it will be a best seller yet brings awareness to people out there who are already or thinking about navigating into this minefield.

Great job!

[milfmilf]

Originally Posted by Gentle Beast

Bro Hurricane and SingViet, you guys should write a book with a title like, "Marrying a Vietnamese? Think Again!". I bet it will be a best seller yet brings awareness to people out there who are already or thinking about navigating into this minefield.

Great job!

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[MIFAcafe]

Cannot let VBs found out this thread...... once they know they start to learn "counter- attacking moves".

They are fast learners; and will spread like wildfire.

Originally Posted by Gentle Beast

Bro Hurricane and SingViet, you guys should write a book with a title like, "Marrying a Vietnamese? Think Again!". I bet it will be a best seller yet brings awareness to people out there who are already or thinking about navigating into this minefield.

Great job!

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by MIFAcafe

Cannot let VBs found out this thread...... once they know they start to learn "counter- attacking moves".

They are fast learners; and will spread like wildfire.

Their Tieng Anh cannot make it la bro. Read one sentence can only understand 1 or 2 words. Meter MIFAcafe, they puck can, do other thing cannot....

[Gentle Beast]

Originally Posted by MIFAcafe

Cannot let VBs found out this thread...... once they know they start to learn "counter- attacking moves".

They are fast learners; and will spread like wildfire.

Yeah.. that's true. Best to keep at least 'one hidden deadly move' under one's sleeve for the final assault if forced into the circumstances.

I have a nephew is his early 30's married to a young Vietnamese, it has been more than 3 years and the couple have a lovely baby. Personally I have never intrude into their lives such as finding out more about the girl's background etc but I was taken aback when they rushed into their marriage. My Uncle and wife flew up to HCMC for the ceremony and threw a wedding dinner with some dowry.

All these years, the young couple has been living together raising their child and everything appears to be under control, so far. My nephew works in his father's business and the Vietnamese wife is a housewife. She only goes back during the Tet festival with her baby, usually for about 2 weeks. My nephew does not go along (maybe he has his reasons?)

I guess even as life is running along fine, one has to be 'one step ahead' when dealing with a Viet life partner. After reading some of the postings here, my conclusion is to keep a level head where finance are concerned. Giving more doesn't equate to getting back more love and care.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by Gentle Beast

Bro Hurricane and SingViet, you guys should write a book with a title like, "Marrying a Vietnamese? Think Again!". I bet it will be a best seller yet brings awareness to people out there who are already or thinking about navigating into this minefield.

Great job!

haha...better try to be humble...only here to help advise...is up to individual to take my advice and make their own decisions...

I had guided numerous friends navigating Vietnam...most are successful...plenty of happiness...we stay away from unhappiness...is so easy once you knew them and most VBs went thru same grandmasters teachings...so understanding them is chicken feed...

I have a group of friends who fell in love with Vietnam after one or few trips...now we are regulars there...one or two of them fell in love with the food...haha....^^

to me Viet gals are one of the best in this planet...some of the most beautiful gals too in Vietnam...this is just my own opinion...not meant to upset and anger anyone....