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[persocon]

having been diving under water for more than a year since i signed up for sammyboy. but now finally i have to say that it's becoming very compelling for me to show my head above water and breathe some fresh air...

just my 2 cents of thai go-go bar girls:

go-go bar girls will never fall in love 100% with a white-skin farang, and in the case of you and me being yellow skin asians, anyone not "khun Thai". the reason is simple: on the nights when her boss/loanshacks/ex-bf beat her up, you're not around. on the nights when she suddenly feels lonely and down, you're not around. a true love needs substance, more than some kiss-kiss-bang-bang.

besides, remmeber that in thai language / culture, "I like you" is purely for friend-friend (peung-peung) relationship. A decent school girl may tell you that "she likes you", but what she really means is she thinks you are a nice person to be friend with - that's it.

most girls dancing in nana/soi-cowboy disco bars are from "upcountry". perhaps 4 in 5 are from Issan (the north-east): it's like a mini globalisation happneing in one country: when ex-farm girls move to BKK and find out the true reality that their primary/secondary education means jobless in metropolitan BKK, they end up dancing in discos. somewhat not what they dreamed of when they attend first day of school at age 6, but the sheer amount of money flowing in (compared to farming) and the crazy-yet-fun lifestyle and the many "friendly" sisters who share the same background and life make them addicted to being a go-go dancer. Yes, "addicted".

although i'm only 25 but i've seen many stupid farangs marrying these go-go dancers and bring them overseas to their home country only to realise that these girls feel homesick rather quickly, perhaps in just a month after the moving to "farang-land". and the truth is they feel homesick not because of their father/mother/sisters/brothers+20 other relatives at home in Issan (well, maybe 10%), the 90% of the homesickness is from missing the crazy-yet-fun lifestyle of neon lights, dancing, getting bar-fined, ...

in conclusion, in terms of thai culture:

(1) everyone wants face (face value)
(2) once becoming a go-go bar dancer, the girl immediately lose face in the eyes of ordinary working-class thais
(3) so they resort to enjoy their own lifestyle: smoking, drinking, dancing, etc.
(4) but most importantly of all, they feel the happiness in life because they see many farangs want to bar-fine them, want to "love" them, want to spend the night with them, i.e., the girls feel that in the eyes of farangs, they are goddess
(5) and they are taught and brainwashed everyday by their sisters/boss/bf to "ride on the wave of happiness", to make use of their goddess-apparel in the eyes of farang, to get rich - well, for any girl grown up in a poor family, who doesn't want money to upgrade their own life a bit?
(6) and as said in point (5), there are skills needed to get money, and hence, not all go-go bar girls are equally rich or happy: all they need is to remember your name, your interests, your birthday, your home-country, and smile, and be femine, and act like a little cute girl, and hide in your open arms, and voila, you'll sooner or later become her walking ATM. perhaps she won't ask you for anything on your 1st/2nd date with her. but once she sees you has an interest in her (girls are very good in sensing your feelings), she'll start to ask a bit, and a bit more next time, and a bit even more the next time.....

well.. if you really want happiness with thai girls, you should:

(1) learn Thai language / culture (if you spend 10-20 Baht to buy a garlend and give to your thai gf/teerak yesterday on 23 Oct to tell her to pay the respect, you may save a lot of money)

(2) be a vainpot (especially your hair), and self-conscious on your appearence and be fit / go to gym regularly (it'll help you on the short term in bed/go-go bar and it'll help you long-term for your health too, so why not?)

(3) get a decent Thai girl as your girlfriend - don't rely on go-go bar girls for a long-term relationship unless you have recently won a Toto top price and want to burn some money for religious thanksgiving. while keeping your regular girlfriend, use go-go bars for extra pleasures only.

if you have a thai girl as your girlfriend, i'm not sure if you're aware of not that in thai culture, many girls refer to thai guys as "they have many girlfriends" / "they are lyers" / "they cheat on girls" and many girls want to meet someone "who never tell lies" / "who is not a cheater" / "who is true and sincere"....

all these feelings come from an unspoken practice by thai girls passed down in generations: when they really want to love their bf, before giving 100% of their love to their bf, they'll do a test on the bf, by asking their other girlfriends to act like "a lonely yet lovely girl who wants love" and try to seduce/chat/befriend with the bf. in this modern age of internet proliferation, this has become rather easy - msn chat logs. once the bf shows that he has intention to "love" this girl, the girl will immediately report back to her friends and relationship will probably end soon with the girls getting a renewed impression that "guys are liers".

hence, while getting on steady with your thai bf, if one day u see a stranger girl telling you to love her, remember that:
(1) it shows that your thai gf now really consider you as her life-long partner and she now loves you really really a lot
(2) tell this new stranger to "fuck off" - well this may appear hard on any guy to resist a temptation from a pretty girl stranger, but remember this is not real - this is a testament on you.

good luck

[holymannn]

Originally Posted by Tony Stark

Hahaha a round of applause please.

Those who are about or in the process of being f*cked over will say,"My girl is different leh."

Sifuuuu tony, this is fcuking true..... i also think my gal different.... also think she really love me le... sometime really hard to tell la.... better treat all their words are lie..... keke

[motard]

Originally Posted by holymannn

Sifuuuu tony, this is fcuking true..... i also think my gal different.... also think she really love me le... sometime really hard to tell la.... better treat all their words are lie..... keke

although sometimes i really cannot stand some of the TGs & their goh hohk-ness. we're all trying to deceive ourselves that all this is for real, 自欺欺人. 555

hahah....when i first started out with my current OC....I also caught her giving me crap....

I told her....in simple terms....U try give me Roti Prata...I will make one BIG Mutarbak for U.....she got the idea...till now....I still occasionally try to find fault when there is actually none......just to keep her on her toes...hahahaha!!

LMP

[Tony Stark]

Originally Posted by holymannn

Sifuuuu tony, this is fcuking true..... i also think my gal different.... also think she really love me le... sometime really hard to tell la.... better treat all their words are lie..... keke

Originally Posted by motard

although sometimes i really cannot stand some of the TGs & their goh hohk-ness. we're all trying to deceive ourselves that all this is for real, 自欺欺人. 555

We can bluff others but when we bluff ourselves that's pathetic.

Originally Posted by lostmypants

hahah....when i first started out with my current OC....I also caught her giving me crap....

I told her....in simple terms....U try give me Roti Prata...I will make one BIG Mutarbak for U.....she got the idea...till now....I still occasionally try to find fault when there is actually none......just to keep her on her toes...hahahaha!!

Yes or else they get complacent.

Well....to me....relationship with any Thai gals is like flying a kite...U must know when to let go and when to pull back...or else....it will just fall flat...

Too nice...u get lots of roti prata....so in order not to get too much roti prata....still must always make them know....dun give me crap.....after some time..they will get the idea if they really wanna be with u...

One thing abt thai gals...to be fair to them...if u manage to really get their heart whole heartedly....they can really love u with all their heart...but the inital stage....well....its a challenge

LMP

[adidas88]

Originally Posted by persocon

having been diving under water for more than a year since i signed up for sammyboy. but now finally i have to say that it's becoming very compelling for me to show my head above water and breathe some fresh air...
just my 2 cents of thai go-go bar girls: ...................

bro .. ur virgin post is beary powderful and right to the point ...
though i disagree on some but overall it's accurate ...

Originally Posted by motard

Erm...my girl is really different leh

Originally Posted by holymannn

i also think my gal different.... also think she really love me le... sometime really hard to tell la....

bros .. i'm sure ur gals r different ...
we r not impling all thai gals r liars ... but majority r .. especially the FL's, WL's and AGG gals ...

Originally Posted by lostmypants

Too nice...u get lots of roti prata....so in order not to get too much roti prata....

that's why they have many types of roti-prata now ...
with egg or without egg ... cheese prata, ice-cream prata, durian prata etc etc ... they make u confused ...

[adidas88]

Originally Posted by Tony Stark

We can bluff others but when we bluff ourselves that's pathetic.

totally agreed ...

When money is lost, nothing is lost,
When health is lost, something is lost,
When character is lost, everything is lost.

[Tony Stark]

Originally Posted by persocon

(5), there are skills needed to get money, and hence, not all go-go bar girls are equally rich or happy: all they need is to remember your name, your interests, your birthday, your home-country, and smile, and be femine, and act like a little cute girl, and hide in your open arms, and voila, you'll sooner or later become her walking ATM.

Don't forget the CIM, AR and AJ they give you. You start to think you're hot stud Rocco or Peter North. Haha.

[yanz]

Lying is just like a core part of a thai gal's daily life. Either a small white lie or some ridiculous (take u for a retard) kind. Sick and tired of thai gals partly because of this.

But... do remember, they can fake orgasm, we can fake the whole relationship. Not literally of cos, just enjoy the ride while u can.

Been there, done that, lucky to be back. lol.

[CeiResident]

Wise words from the aarchans here. It's hard to maintain a relationship that is only substainable by $$$$ . Try not to give monthly allowance to her for a considerable period of time and notice the change in her... I wonder how many unions between them and us is really not measured by monetary gains at times...


Boyfriend says 'I love you forever',
She gives up her virginity, but then bf seen again never.
Cheated, felt she had not been clever,
'All men are lidat', say friends, she becomes a devil.

Screw them and leave them, make all men wonder,
Her beauty intact, but financially not practical.
Better be a WL in a different land as a foreigner,
Earn money and make all men pay double.

"I love you, I miss you", she learns to be a liar,
Silly men return to be her regular,
Borrow money even for the fake love given & worships her.
But with her heart stone cold, she uses silly words and actions to be hotter.

Hundreds of thousands dollars 5 years later,
Her vagina a mess, medication makes her no better.
Her mentality is all about financial gain to be richer,
Knows not true love, her soul emptier.

The road as a WL is never smoother,
The journey fills with physical and medical danger.
The money does temporary makes one happier,
BUt the space in the heart is empty and it forever lingers.

'Money is never enough', a truth factual,
Curb the spending, use it prudently and be wiser,
Beauty and energy in time will disappear,
Learn what is enough, find true love & life will be fuller

[CeiResident]

Bro i like what u say, your quote eats into my heart now. Been there done that and picking up the pieces now eventually it would just be a fairy tale...

When you are stressed out, or suffering from a love affair breakdown, or just feeling plain lonely, a smile from a beautiful stranger tends to lift your spirits up. When she moves closer to you without any inhibitions, plant kisses on you, it seems all your care and worries disappears as you respond in kind to her warm embraces, finding comfort in her hug.

When she whispers ' I love you', your mind zooms to the highest heavens, leaving your sense of logic far behind, lost in the apparant magical power of a self perception of love, hearing words you had desperately always wanted to hear.

You choose to believe and even do your utmost to convince yourself that it is all real, even if you have only $30 left in your pocket, ugly, with a pockmarked bald headed face and a bulging beer belly.

Assuming that you had a lucky strike with love, you showered her with everything within your means, even borrowed some, when she so much as utter a request through her lovely lips.

'Kah Ching!!!', the jackpot machine in her mind sounds off quietly. Another fool entwined within her 'Kan Ching' web. An assured ATM (auto teller machine), a salary made within 20mins which takes her countrymen a month of toil and sweat to earn.

Wake up bro. True love does not come easy. Pub goers are mainly adults and each adult would have found been in love before, or at least have a perception of what love is.

In your eyes, that ktv girl is only an image of what you seek or hope to find. A physical reality but only of your fantasy. Use your common sense, which girl will ever say ' I love you' within 5 secs of meeting you, without even knowing who and what you are?

True love takes time to develope, a total physical and emotional journey of exploration of each other to find if there are qualities each may admire to take them both exclusively into old age together.

But love within 5 secs? Friendship perhaps, but love? Absurd.

It is understandable that we all have our emotional weakness and needs, even if we are mentally and physically strong. Being human, we need to be loved and the comfort it brings to our lonely individualistic lives.

Ktv/WL/FL/FB's love is nothing more than an illusion to fulfilled that need Mcdonald style, and needs to be treated as what it truly is - an illusion.

In such moments of weakness, it is therapatic to escape into this illusion for that fantasy becomes a reality in the form of her presence. It keeps us sane for without even a reality to our fantasies, our lives will be wasted living and chasing forever an illusion that may never come true, getting wilder as each day passes, losing our sanity finally or forcing our natural urge upon unsuspecting unwilling partners.

Treat that ktv girl as you had always fantasize love about - care and concern for her and being loved in return. Make love to her even and find comfort in her, for she is a willing party to your dream.

But in the end, when you see the sparkle in her eyes and the wide grin on her face as she accepts the money from you for her time and efforts, let it be the wake up call for you that the illusion has ended. You will need to move on with your life in reality, for illusions only brings emptiness, like dreams that disappears with the mist when the sun rises...

Dont even bother to take her phone number, for she is not the one you seek or the next. Your true love cannot be found in this manner within dreams and fantasies. Your true love is already living in your mind, the someone you had lost or else it would be a friend either waiting to be found or is already found but you did not look closer to let that friendship develope into love.....

Originally Posted by Rub&Buah

i understand the feeling & stuff u r going thru.Thou we cheong often & screw many gals along the way,there will be a few who we will develop some special feeling which is actually confusing for us.

No one falls in love by choice, it is by chance ..
No one stays in love by chance, it is by work ...
And no one fall out of love by chance, it is by choice.


Subconsiously we hoping for somthing to happen but u do not know what u hope to happen.Just want to cling on to find a answer.resulting in $$,time & emotion burned.Note:usually in the end there is no ans,just memory that will eventually fade as time goes by.TRUST ME,IT WILL.

Originally Posted by Rub&Buah

Few days of happeniess,months or years of emotion suffering.

Good luck & take care bro,this is not a cool game,

[carcinoma]

Thank you all Bros for the advice.

This few days I just can't seem to take my mind off her. I tried my best to spend time with my family but her face just keep appearing in my mind.

Could she have cast love magic on me???

Anyway to find out?

Originally Posted by carcinoma

Thank you all Bros for the advice.

This few days I just can't seem to take my mind off her. I tried my best to spend time with my family but her face just keep appearing in my mind.

Could she have cast love magic on me???

Anyway to find out?

Bro....

I think its not so much as KT as it is in ur mind....

Its a challenge...but u have to stop this KC trap happenin to u now...especially since u alkready got a family....its not going to do anyone any good...

To cheong is one thing...to kena KC when u already got a family...its serious...with very serious consequences....

Trust me I know wat I am talking abt...dun think u expect to hear such things from an OKT rite?

Think abt it...as to checking if she cast a spell on u...u sure u not the one tat put it on urself?

LMP

[edkoh2000]

Hi to all Bangkok brothers

Its been almost 3 years since I last visited bangkok so I need some updates. Sorry as I have limited time to access this forum and so can really comb and research through the whole forum. Hope all of you can help.

I have just wrote a small FR providing info on hainan China if anyone is interested.

My questions

1) I visited eden (the shop where the have 2 girls for 3some) on soi 7 some years back, is it still opened? I like the concept. Or is there a hot new place for 3some now?

2) There is another joint I went where they did a korean or jap style shower on you as you lie on top and the girl will spray water and bath you. I cant remember the name or address of the place. Anyone can enlighten?

3) Are the BJ bars at Soi cowboy still alive and kicking? Is nana plaza still as hot?

4) lastly with the unrest there, any changes to the nightlife? Are the streets still as safe?

I would be going bangkok a few days then to phuket. Phuket I know quite well so I will probably just walk along soi bangla for action in Patong if it is just as before.

Thanks in advance.