Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[MIFAcafe]

KT reply is priceless.

Too late for any advice on VB. Now is in recovery mode.

Nice to a VB is been cruel to yourself.

[Kim91]

Originally Posted by lasupking

I just want my child back here so that he is able to grow up in a better environment. All these vietnamese are dying to come to spore for a better life and she acutally wants to live in vn. dont know wat is wrong in her head

Bro Volcano is correct dun listen to comment too much.

Leave them for awhile Think carefully what u want. Maybe u can engage a PI first to see u can get any evidence of her cheating u.
But for the sake of the child if can savage the marriage pls do try before considering the road of bo return.
On getting ur child back u can try reading kenn smith fb.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by Kim91

Leave them for awhile Think carefully what u want. Maybe u can engage a PI first to see u can get any evidence of her cheating u.
But for the sake of the child if can savage the marriage pls do try before considering the road of bo return.
On getting ur child back u can try reading kenn smith fb.

yes...must be very patient...your decision is very important now...but cannot be idle...must plan and action...

[coolermonster]

Advice from my viet bu friend, do nothing for now. When your wife has used finish her money, she will find you. That will be the time to nego for lump sum settlement for custody of your child

[sunhuan-con]

Originally Posted by coolermonster

Advice from my viet bu friend, do nothing for now. When your wife has used finish her money, she will find you. That will be the time to nego for lump sum settlement for custody of your child

Thats true....squeeze her then

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by lasupking

Hi bros, hope any bros who have experience in this situation will be able to help me
My vn wife went back to vn for her annual year end holiday with my child. She was suppose to come back spore and on the day she was suppose to return, she send me an email saying she wants a divorce and isnt coming back with our child. When i got the email, I called her but she cut off her mobile.

The very next day, i went to her family house in hcmc and was told by her family members she moved out. they told me they didnt know where she moved to. I came back to spore and went thru her email and found out from a contact of mine in hcmc that she rented a condo and moved.
I went back to hcmc this time to her new add and when she saw me, she screamed at the security guards who brought me up saying, "why u let people come up, i dont want any visitors". Then she repeatedly slammed the door in my face and refused to talk to me.

It has been about a month and she hasnt said a word to me. before she went back, she took a sum of money from me saying she wants to do business there and crap. I send her msgs on fb, viber email and no response at all.

Any bros with any kangtaos in hcmc to assist on this matter? if she wants to leave me, she can go but i want the child back cos after all, the environment for raising a kid is better in spore. my child holds dual citizenship. Spore and vn. Hope any bros can share any tips with me on how to bring the child back. Thanks

Solution 1-Go to hcm Singapore consulate at Saigon tower,tell them you have a Vietnamese wife and now in Vietnam,u want file for divorce,they will give u few pages of contact of law firm,local or foreign run.Those law firm will charge u foreigner rate and expect to pay few thousands sing even though those firm is from sg and have head office here and have a branch in Vietnam.Prepare to spend and file different type of document and might need to go down few times.Case more complicated if got kids.Time consuming and waste money,energy and time.Find those law firm that specialist in this kind of family issue.Those dealing with business or commercial issue don't like to entertain all this shit job.End of the day,your son is on her hand,u think she want bother about u?i think show her money better

Solution 2-listen to what senior bro say,go the viet way,throw money to her,she accept,then bring your son back.Dont go bother what she will do next time,like come back sg fight for divorce,mantain fees,you money or what so ever,all this not important.Save your money for your son for his future.Dont waste all those money on divorce to fight against this kind of woman

U have yourself to blame,monthly give her 2k as allowance,show love to a woman does not mean by money and she don't give a damm about u from what u describe,she can now move to a condo and probably now laugh at u like u are at mercy and have to follow her to get back your son.Vietnamese are smart,they grow up in a dog eat dog society so don't think u can outsmart them.

By the way,we listen only to one sided of your story so we can only comment on how u describe your wife so u decide your own

[Golden question]

So a lesson to all bros,no need apply duel citizenship for you Singapore born baby unless is really necessary cos legally now your baby can stay in Vietnam.
If your baby is red passport,the mother is consider breaking sg law by not returning the baby to sg and if she left sg without telling the other party for this case is the baby father,she is deem to break the law.Under international law,is consider human trafficking and is consider very serious.

End of the day,the innocent party is that baby,is hard to settle,fresh and blood.so u have to be calm like what some bro advise,think first on what u do,if your wife don't want cooperate for the well being or future for your baby,then is going to be tough for u.She is also the baby mother,at least she did not abandon her and throw at u and leave but whether is to hold u for 'ransom' for money in the future nobody know.Important is u must plan for your baby,always adults do wrong things,kids suffer

[curious76]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

I can sympathize with you...but then again dun think you ever read this forum before you marry her...if you do then dun think you will marry her even she has your child...both have few options...

after so many years I dun understand VB fully...gave up trying to understand them...I did mentioned VB dun deserved to be nice...you must be harsh with them in order for VB to love you more...

anyway...enough advice on your divorce thingy from others...main thing is play cool and be patient...just continue to live your life...

Just curious to know how harsh can one be?

[stillgottheblue]

When a woman loves you, she will stick to you through rich or poor provided you treat her with the same due respect.

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by stillgottheblue

When a woman loves you, she will stick to you through rich or poor provided you treat her with the same due respect.

Yes,thats why I say,is only one sided story from him so we can only comment on how he describe his wife.

For a woman to suddenly leave his husband with lump sum of money and bring their baby back to Vietnam show she might not be happy with this marriage and fault does not lies totally on her,at least she does not abandon her baby in Singapore and leave and it shows she still care about the child.

Family matters we outside people cant really comments,we can only advise but end of the day,he still have to settle calmly,dont find fault anymore cos no point now,important is the kid

[Hurricane88]

Happy New Year to all here...

[momogaga]

Hi bros
I may not be spot on but many vb described here are those materialistic ones who took the easy way out by trading their flesh. I've known honest and hardworking ones in normal occupation and they know hardships and refuse to buy or ask for branded. Can any bros who know vb like these shed light? In my opinion what we hear here are mainly bus from ktv cafe etc. Even so there are very sincere ones who work really hard and refuse to lower themselves to flesh trade.

[stillgottheblue]

Originally Posted by momogaga

Hi bros
I may not be spot on but many vb described here are those materialistic ones who took the easy way out by trading their flesh. I've known honest and hardworking ones in normal occupation and they know hardships and refuse to buy or ask for branded. Can any bros who know vb like these shed light? In my opinion what we hear here are mainly bus from ktv cafe etc. Even so there are very sincere ones who work really hard and refuse to lower themselves to flesh trade.

I know such a very hardworking one. She works from 5am to 8pm and festive seasons 4am to 11pm as a wholesale sales person.

She bought her own house, to be fully paid by the end of the year. She is totally from what people describe about Vietnamese here.

But please do note that this does not mean there's no cheaters in this world. There are all the real case studies here for us to learn.

[damong777]

Originally Posted by momogaga

Hi bros
I may not be spot on but many vb described here are those materialistic ones who took the easy way out by trading their flesh. I've known honest and hardworking ones in normal occupation and they know hardships and refuse to buy or ask for branded. Can any bros who know vb like these shed light? In my opinion what we hear here are mainly bus from ktv cafe etc. Even so there are very sincere ones who work really hard and refuse to lower themselves to flesh trade.

There always ones who take the easy way out. First contact for most bro will be via pubs or ktv Singapore unless u posted there to work. Even in ktv some gals I have spoken to still dun want to do the flesh trade. Maybe they got bf support which I will not know

[Genetic]

I am "new" to the thread, though I have been reading to find out more......this is my first post because I am at a lost.

I am 50 year old, single and missed my opportunity of marriage. Currently "jobless" or relying on previous saving with no housing debt.

I am seriously considering going to GoldenMile to seek help from Vietnamese marriage agency. I am by nature shy, or socially awkward, and I don't venture into commercial sex.

Can someone advise me, I also don't mind if she had history of ex bf in Vietnam, or even job as ......you know what i mean.