Do you regret marrying?

[Captainoceania77]

Originally Posted by shaggyfuck

Regret.

It's my second and its the same all over:

Had to give up my hobbies;
Had to justify any thing i want to buy (with my own money);
Sometimes comments by her can be disrespect (to me);
She's always right.

Now I don't even want to touch her, just felt turned off (chemistry loss). Seems lightning does strike twice.

Be it 2nd , 3rd , 4th , 5th........is still the same conclusion....

[shaggyfuck]

Originally Posted by Bukit Mewah

Be it 2nd , 3rd , 4th , 5th........is still the same conclusion....

It seems to be the case. Still thinking if i should just end it and stay single. Short term pain compared to terminal illness.

[Ngengheng]

Originally Posted by shaggyfuck

It seems to be the case. Still thinking if i should just end it and stay single. Short term pain compared to terminal illness.

The outcome will eventually the same. Be a single n shag around will be the good option.

[MoeLanYong]

Originally Posted by Bukit Mewah

Be it 2nd , 3rd , 4th , 5th........is still the same conclusion....

The other way of looking at it is, the problem is not with the other person

[shaggyfuck]

Originally Posted by MoeLanYong

The other way of looking at it is, the problem is not with the other person

Perhaps you are right.

[leakypipes]

Hmmm this one tough question... I will say... Short term, many times yes... Long term, no and probably always no.

Short term yes - life is difficult. Last time, I control all aspects of life. When I wake up, what I eat, what I do for fun, when I sleep, how much I drink, where I go, who I shag, etc. Now I have to think of wife also. And kids. Very tiring. Plus work demands, leaves me little time to recharge. And sometimes small quarrel, sometimes big... V upsetting. Feel like I made a mistake who I marry.

Long term no - life is full of fleeting moments. Not everything will be nice. More tough than happy moments.

But that means every happy moment seems more meaningful, more valuable. I see things differently. I realise I have changed. And so has she. I'm not the only one stressed by change. She also. Along the way, we have had to renew our communication over and over again. It's still not perfect. It will never be. So what?

Also, I'm stronger now. I know this. I have overcome all kinds of shit times. I force myself to get back up after each fall.

I'm still looking for my purpose in life. Maybe I will never find. I have my moments of weakness. Like when I go find fl. All I can do is keep safe and hope to avoid STD.

But I'm alive. And from interacting with single colleagues, I realise I'm not like them anymore. I live at a different "level".

So in sum, marriage is a bit like that. You have to put in effort, grind for experience points to level up. If you don't grind, you can't advance. You will forever be stuck at low level. And for that, I don't regret. Cos when I die, at least I know I died a better man than what I was yesterday.

[shaggyfuck]

Any bro have a good divorce lawyer to recommend?

Will need some legal advice.

[MoeLanYong]

Originally Posted by shaggyfuck

Any bro have a good divorce lawyer to recommend?

Will need some legal advice.

Just walk into HOH law. Divorce lawyers are hard to tell apart unlike litigators. You seriously don't need or want to pay for a senior counsel. Maybe you can post generic questions here.

[shaggyfuck]

Originally Posted by MoeLanYong

Just walk into HOH law. Divorce lawyers are hard to tell apart unlike litigators. You seriously don't need or want to pay for a senior counsel. Maybe you can post generic questions here.

i need to know a few things and how it generally will be decided by the courts:

1. We have no kids, so need to pay maintenance? (my pay is substantially more than hers 4x)
2. I have a another property under my own name, i want to keep and not be forced to split.

[shaggyfuck]

Originally Posted by SirTalkCock

1. Yes under Woman's Charter Cap 353. Amount depends on her lifestyle during the marriage. If she is working, it won't be much. Judges expect some form of self sustainability and reasonableness.

http://www.lawhub.com.sg/articles/sp...-children.html

2. General rule of thumb is she will get a share of whatever was acquired during marriage, unless you can prove it was inherited or gifted.

http://singaporelegaladvice.com/how-...-in-a-divorce/

thanks. will go look for some advice from a lawyer before proceeding.

[*FiReWoRkS*]

Sometimes the problem is not marriage itself but the person whom you are married to might not be the one.

[Atta]

I feel this is just another of a drink and drive question. In short, don't marry if you regret, don't regret if you marry.

Sounds simple but may be more difficult to do in reality.

[sunhuan-con]

Originally Posted by Atta

I feel this is just another of a drink and drive question. In short, don't marry if you regret, don't regret if you marry.

Sounds simple but may be more difficult to do in reality.

Modern marriages 90 per cent will regret......

[Zeee]

In Singapore, 99% couples definitely thought of divorce once during their marriage life. Regretted a lot of decisions in life and marriage is definitely the biggest one among all.

[Atta]

Originally Posted by sunhuan-con

Modern marriages 90 per cent will regret......

Originally Posted by Atta

I feel this is just another of a drink and drive question. In short, don't marry if you regret, don't regret if you marry.

Sounds simple but may be more difficult to do in reality.

Originally Posted by Zeee

In Singapore, 99% couples definitely thought of divorce once during their marriage life. Regretted a lot of decisions in life and marriage is definitely the biggest one among all.

That is why it sounds simple but may be more difficult to do in reality. From your replies, I think I have understated the difficulty in achieving "marry no regret, regret no marriage".