My Real Life Story

[Johnbass]

Originally Posted by sharonlee

I am not guy lah,i am the victim,my name is sharon

Sorry, my bad, my name is John...

[joseph999]

sharon,honestly say i pity u,but not all guy are bad... he is too overbroad

[maxsee]

No offense...but this is a classic example of someone who got married when they are very young and the lack of proper education. Anyway back to the topic, should just move on with your life and make sure your ex hubby pay the monthly $500 maintenance, go to the family court to ask for the back dated amount if necessary...Still got a kid to raise....

[harddisk]

What a badass hubby you have. Actually I quite understand the part where you tried to close one eye and insist on the trust because you want to keep the marriage and you have a kid.

In my personal experience, if either spouse wants to cheat and yet do not want to hurt the family, please do it discreetly and don't leave traces behind because eventually, we still want to come back to a happy home. Unfortunately for me, I found out and I'm still getting to terms.

In your case, your hubby has really taken you for granted and brought his fun a tad too far. Quite a disgrace to men but I don't wish to judge.

To find out that his gf was actually sitting beside him during your friend's wedding dinner is painful I know. It's like you know this person's existence but do not know how that something's actually going on. But sometimes things we hear may not be true. Did you hear it from a girlfriend or guy? I once had a lady friend (I'm a guy btw) tell me my gf was seen in town holding hands with another guy. I didn't know if I should believe it because this lady had a thing for me.

If you seeking advice from the forum, most will say leave the man because of what you have written. But eventually the decision lies with you since only you know how much more you can tolerate your partner.

You may want to continue to share your story so that we can have a clearer picture but hor, kindly try to paragraph it so that makes things easier to read. Your English is fine.

[MIFAcafe]

Ask yourself why you hubby has so much stamina to have 2 girlfriends.

Please answer this questions.
1. How many times you make love with your hubby per month?

2. When is the last time you and your husband have lunch or dinner in a restaurant?

3. How often you nag or have cold war with your husband?

4. When is the last time you make up and dress nicely for your hubby to see?

5. Do you wear sexy nightie for your hubby at night?

If you keep silent.... I assume....
1. Probably 1-2 times or never at all.

2. Cannot remember....

3. Almost everyday I saw him......

4. Never...

5. None.....

You should check what is wrong with yourself before blaming anyone else.

[PPGirl]

Originally Posted by MIFAcafe

Ask yourself why you hubby has so much stamina to have 2 girlfriends.

You should check what is wrong with yourself before blaming anyone else.

Hmmm kinda true. We dunno d other side of his story.
Dun say y i never side woman hor.. we have to listen both sides of d story b4 can give correct advices

[yangguo]

Originally Posted by MIFAcafe

Ask yourself why you hubby has so much stamina to have 2 girlfriends.

Please answer this questions..

You should check what is wrong with yourself before blaming anyone else.

Hmm.. I don't see any login in asking TS to answer all these stupid questions.

Anyway she is just sharing her story, not blaming anyone else.

She is not asking for any sympathy so I don't think that you have the rights to be critical.

Do you dare to say that you have never made mistake in your entire life?

Originally Posted by PPGirl

Dun say y i never side woman hor.. we have to listen both sides of d story b4 can give correct advices

My sentiment exactly.

No matter which party has done wrong, that guy has the responsibility and legal obligation to pay maintenance to her who is supporting the child unless he can prove that he is NOT the natural father to the child.

[MIFAcafe]

She did ask for comments and solutions..... how to do that with one sided story.

I make lot of mistakes in life, but I am capable of settling them every time. No one is perfect ; but then again not everyone know how to solve a problem when one problem after another appear.

Originally Posted by sharonlee

hi all people here,my name is Sharon,i am 39years old this year,i wan to share a story that happen to me and hope that all people can comment ,give me some solution.thanks a lot

Originally Posted by yangguo

Hmm.. I don't see any login in asking TS to answer all these stupid questions.

Do you dare to say that you have never made mistake in your entire life?

My sentiment exactly.

No matter which party has done wrong, that guy has the responsibility to pay maintenance to her who is supporting the child unless he can prove that he is NOT the natural father to the child.

[MIFAcafe]

Solutions.....is from my 5 questions.

1. Have sex more often with your hubby. Give bbbj if you don't feel like having sex.
2. Go for more dinner date. (get a baby sitter)
3. Don't nag and have cold war.....
4. Learn to make up and dress up. (don't be lazy)
5. Wear sexy nightie. Naughty type the best.

But I doubt you can do it...... because you make up your mind it is all your hubby fault to have gfs.

Originally Posted by MIFAcafe

1. How many times you make love with your hubby per month?

2. When is the last time you and your husband have lunch or dinner in a restaurant?

3. How often you nag or have cold war with your husband?

4. When is the last time you make up and dress nicely for your hubby to see?

5. Do you wear sexy nightie for your hubby at night?

[yangguo]

Originally Posted by MIFAcafe

She did ask for comments and solutions..... how to do that with one sided story..

Do you mean you can help to solve her problem by asking all those stupid questions?

Why don't you try answering those questions yourself?

Originally Posted by MIFAcafe

I make lot of mistakes in life, but I am capable of settling them every time. No one is perfect ; but then again not everyone know how to solve a problem when one problem after another appear.

It shows that you are a very capable man. But NOT everyone in real life has the same capability like you.

[MIFAcafe]

Then by you questioning my questions helping her?

All this thing she said is common..... not incurable.

YOU READ AGAIN THE POST..... the main thing other than those gfs........ main thing is the debt.... ultimately also a money problem.

Originally Posted by yangguo

Do you mean you can help to solve her problem by asking all those stupid questions?

Why don't you try answering those questions yourself?

[yangguo]

Originally Posted by MIFAcafe

Solutions.....is from my 5 questions.

1. Have sex more often with your hubby. Give bbbj if you don't feel like having sex.
2. Go for more dinner date. (get a baby sitter)
3. Don't nag and have cold war.....
4. Learn to make up and dress up. (don't be lazy)
5. Wear sexy nightie. Naughty type the best.

Your proposed solutions sounded rubbish to me..

[MIFAcafe]

Originally Posted by yangguo

Your proposed solutions sounded rubbish to me..

From a man point .... it is a perfect wife.

"There are no ugly women in this world.... only lazy women." - Jacky Wu.

So instead of keep attacking me.... why don't you offer your solution on woman point of view?

I bet it will be awesome solution.....

[demonhunter]

Originally Posted by MIFAcafe

She did ask for comments and solutions..... how to do that with one sided story.

I make lot of mistakes in life, but I am capable of settling them every time. No one is perfect ; but then again not everyone know how to solve a problem when one problem after another appear.

Tiagong johnbass ask me to ask you if you have a solution to clones ...

[acidicavex]

What solution TS?

U already divorce.
He skip on maintenance if u want to be nasty take him to court.

Not wanting to doubt u too much but how much can retail work earn to change all those cars? Base on that alone should chalk up more than few hundred ks of debt. And base on your tales like help him start biz and he sponging on u.... by now probably a bankrupt?


Anyway hmmm...... seriously dont know what else to say.

just find it full of loopholes and rather drama not saying it wouldnt happen in real life. But.….......

If it indeed happen good luck to u and i am not sure why u post it here. Unless u saying your ex Hubby hang inside SBF.... u probably have better moral support in those motherhood, flowerpod forum etc.