Do you regret marrying?

[Shadow_warrior]

Yes...and No...

nothing is perfect. I suppose if you are single you wished you were married, and when you are married, sometimes you wish you were single.

When I was young I wanted to be married, now that I hit my 40s, I think I could go either way, somedays it feels like I am single even though I am technically married.

Sex is non existent, the only conversations are about the children. Its as if we lead separate lives but we have a common hobby our furkid and kid.

Was sick with flu, didn't get any attention. Problems with work, don't ask, don't care. Its a lonely life, even though I am married.

And then there is the notion that the grass is always greener outside, or to have quick fixes, sex toys, fbs, wls, well I conclude, it only works for a while, and then life becomes mundane again. especially if you end up thinking the WL or another lady is the ONE, and you start seeing her seriously. Over time, it seems that you are married once again, same shit, different day, different woman.

[HelloAngel]

Why don't you talk to your wife about it instead of letting this drag on? Are you gonna be unhappy at 55yrs old too? That's so miserable.

[CheerfulGuy]

Marriage is really not easy as it takes 2 hands to clap.

Sometimes its not only abt the physical intimacy anymore. Its knowing that theres somebody by yr side who will support you or just be by yr side that will warm your heart.

[jnudes]

Originally Posted by CheerfulGuy

Marriage is really not easy as it takes 2 hands to clap.

Sometimes its not only abt the physical intimacy anymore. Its knowing that theres somebody by yr side who will support you or just be by yr side that will warm your heart.

I only have one hand to clap so there would be no sound as I am currently single. Things are still manageable for me even when I got sick. At least can still cook by myself while under heavy flu and on medication.

I got to know about one old woman broken one of her legs while jogging on wet path at a park and need spent 2 months in hospital bed and she is 75 years old. Today she has recovered and can walk again. This woman inspired me to be mentally tough and strong when the unexpected arrives.

[KonKam]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

Yes...and No...

nothing is perfect. I suppose if you are single you wished you were married, and when you are married, sometimes you wish you were single.

When I was young I wanted to be married, now that I hit my 40s, I think I could go either way, somedays it feels like I am single even though I am technically married.

Sex is non existent, the only conversations are about the children. Its as if we lead separate lives but we have a common hobby our furkid and kid.

Was sick with flu, didn't get any attention. Problems with work, don't ask, don't care. Its a lonely life, even though I am married.

And then there is the notion that the grass is always greener outside, or to have quick fixes, sex toys, fbs, wls, well I conclude, it only works for a while, and then life becomes mundane again. especially if you end up thinking the WL or another lady is the ONE, and you start seeing her seriously. Over time, it seems that you are married once again, same shit, different day, different woman.

This is call living the life as if there is no tomorrow.
Human will never happy whatever they have now.
Time will determine one fate.
Meanwhile just enjoy as long you happy lo.

[orangeproud]

Originally Posted by jnudes

I only have one hand to clap so there would be no sound as I am currently single. Things are still manageable for me even when I got sick. At least can still cook by myself while under heavy flu and on medication.

I got to know about one old woman broken one of her legs while jogging on wet path at a park and need spent 2 months in hospital bed and she is 75 years old. Today she has recovered and can walk again. This woman inspired me to be mentally tough and strong when the unexpected arrives.

Even we hv a lifetime partner, can't guarantee he/she will take care of u or by your side forever, and even won't abandon you when you r in dire straits. U only can depend on yourself and trust yourself only.

Hope that I will be as mentally fit & strong as the old lady u mentioned by when I'm at her golden age as we do feel vulnerable when bad thing happen on us.

[Mercedes]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

Yes...and No...

nothing is perfect. I suppose if you are single you wished you were married, and when you are married, sometimes you wish you were single.

When I was young I wanted to be married, now that I hit my 40s, I think I could go either way, somedays it feels like I am single even though I am technically married.

Sex is non existent, the only conversations are about the children. Its as if we lead separate lives but we have a common hobby our furkid and kid.

Was sick with flu, didn't get any attention. Problems with work, don't ask, don't care. Its a lonely life, even though I am married.

And then there is the notion that the grass is always greener outside, or to have quick fixes, sex toys, fbs, wls, well I conclude, it only works for a while, and then life becomes mundane again. especially if you end up thinking the WL or another lady is the ONE, and you start seeing her seriously. Over time, it seems that you are married once again, same shit, different day, different woman.

Bro, totally agreed with you coz what you are going through is happening to me.
Divorce also not an option due to assets. Only can everyday work and think of activities to be occupied, such as massage. Lastly, kid when she finished school.

[archer69]

Originally Posted by jon2000sg

I'm single all my life, many times I tell myself
did I make the correct decision to stay single ?

my bro married for 18 years and now marriage is on the rocks ...

In this era, being single is the luckiest you could have. Don't throw it.

[Captainoceania77]

Originally Posted by archer69

In this era, being single is the luckiest you could have. Don't throw it.

Agree...need to bonk just go and pay and forget.

[HelloAngel]

It's nice to know there are many responsible hubbies here. though the wife is not fulfilling their relationship needs, they still hang on because of the kids n vows. I admire you for your patience n love for the family. No matter what you say, if you don't love your family, you won't hang on.

Before I left my hb, many people did ask if I was making a rash decision n I deprive my boy of a complete family. But they dunno how difficult it is living under the same roof with someone you don't love anymore n quarrel everyday. I am not a robot n can't go through the motion till I am old. So, I prayed for courage n initiated a divorce with my ex. There were some unpleasantness in court due to child maintenance but we managed to get it sorted out. Being a single mom is not easy but it's not impossible either. I am not advocating divorce but if you wanna remain married, then work on the relationship n try n improve it. Otherwise, both parties will be miserable n would you wanna regret not putting things right only when you are 60? Life is short so live happy.

[redhun]

Originally Posted by HelloAngel

It's nice to know there are many responsible hubbies here. though the wife is not fulfilling their relationship needs, they still hang on because of the kids n vows. I admire you for your patience n love for the family. No matter what you say, if you don't love your family, you won't hang on.

Before I left my hb, many people did ask if I was making a rash decision n I deprive my boy of a complete family. But they dunno how difficult it is living under the same roof with someone you don't love anymore n quarrel everyday. I am not a robot n can't go through the motion till I am old. So, I prayed for courage n initiated a divorce with my ex. There were some unpleasantness in court due to child maintenance but we managed to get it sorted out. Being a single mom is not easy but it's not impossible either. I am not advocating divorce but if you wanna remain married, then work on the relationship n try n improve it. Otherwise, both parties will be miserable n would you wanna regret not putting things right only when you are 60? Life is short so live happy.

exactly my sentiments except that there is aftermath n new set of challenge even after divorce. But to be its at least one feet out of the shithole!
I'm neither an advocate for divorce, but to stay in an unhappy , for my case dysfunctional, abusive and manipulative marriage? No way!!

I do not one my kid to grow up with the notion of this is how marriage life should be, it's okay for husband to abuse wife, it's a must to stay on n prove urself a good wife by tolerating his shit!

If u ask me now, stay single if u r not married. If u love ur family, yes work on it, but if both of u are suffering n staying fr the kids, dun make ur kid grow up feeling responsible fr ur sufferings!

[Boinkboinkboink]

Originally Posted by redhun

If u ask me now, stay single if u r not married. If u love ur family, yes work on it, but if both of u are suffering n staying fr the kids, dun make ur kid grow up feeling responsible fr ur sufferings!

So true.

Question remains, what have had changed along the way, or along the way it all reveal itself that you're not supposed to be married in the first place?

Sad. Gladly, I'm done with it.

[Sexwithlace]

Sad to say, I do. Because I realize the sad truth is some people uphold the marriage STILL is because of many other reasons BUT LOVE, and yes i feel that marriage is too much to take. Being single and carefree is good

[Greenfrog]

When you marry for the sake of marriage, you are bound to regret.

My parents are divorced, and my mother only have this thing to say to me; 'Finding no partner is better than finding the wrong one.'

Sometimes i can't help to wonder, are there a lot of couples out there that marry for the sake of marriage?

[Boinkboinkboink]

Originally Posted by Greenfrog

When you marry for the sake of marriage, you are bound to regret.

My parents are divorced, and my mother only have this thing to say to me; 'Finding no partner is better than finding the wrong one.'

Sometimes i can't help to wonder, are there a lot of couples out there that marry for the sake of marriage?

Elaborate please