Do you regret marrying?

[BanJohnbass]

Originally Posted by Johnbass

Tiagong you are still looking for a gf/wife in SBF...
Good luck hor...

U must be ashamed of your wife since she sleeps with the AMDK.
No wonder u never quote the whole post.
U must be a pest to your family.
#BanJohnbass

[jnudes]

Originally Posted by Johnbass

Tiagong the problem is not marriage...
But marrying the wrong person...

Qualities of an ideal spouse: rich, hot in bed, have sex at least 3 times a day, allows to eat out, not selfish, super-understanding, cannot nag, do housework, take care of sick parents, look after children...

I do know one relative (grand cousin) who only known her gf (current wife) for 3.5 years prior to his marriage. From soft spoken gf to a tigress and aggressive wife who controls the entire family and could not get along with her in-laws. This relative is super regret marrying her and he told me his strong patience kept the marriage going.

As far as I am concerned the qualities that you mentioned above does not exist now, most are busy working or doing their own thing, if ask for sex always say tired, lazy to cook, eat outside regularly, lazy to do housework and need to depend on maid, complain when taking care of aging mother in law, instead of caring send her to nursing home for the old, and yes this is not fiction but reality even in my own family.

My grandmother (mother side) is currently staying in nursing home and she is 89 years old this year. My uncles should be taking care of her, well you know, all sorts of excuses and drama going on, so the best solution is to send her to nursing home.

[Deborak]

Before, dating, and after marriage, life is totally different.
yes, i regret now.

[JacqueMerlin]

Originally Posted by jnudes

I do know one relative (grand cousin) who only known her gf (current wife) for 3.5 years prior to his marriage. From soft spoken gf to a tigress and aggressive wife who controls the entire family and could not get along with her in-laws. This relative is super regret marrying her and he told me his strong patience kept the marriage going.

As far as I am concerned the qualities that you mentioned above does not exist now, most are busy working or doing their own thing, if ask for sex always say tired, lazy to cook, eat outside regularly, lazy to do housework and need to depend on maid, complain when taking care of aging mother in law, instead of caring send her to nursing home for the old, and yes this is not fiction but reality even in my own family.

My grandmother (mother side) is currently staying in nursing home and she is 89 years old this year. My uncles should be taking care of her, well you know, all sorts of excuses and drama going on, so the best solution is to send her to nursing home.

All I ask for was fidelity. I can tolerate the rest.
But yet I can't. Caught her twice for having affair. And she had the cheek to demand alimony to compensate her youth. And that I forced her to have an affair for not being romantic enough or good enough.

Yeah... marrying the wrong one in singapore is terrible. The woman always have the law to side them. But the man can only either end it the yuan ching way or endure till you can't take it and end it the yuan ching yuan.

[AppleCoke]

No matter what, should give and take, and cherish the marriage.

[MobileSuits]

Originally Posted by Deborak

Before, dating, and after marriage, life is totally different.
yes, i regret now.

I have been telling some of friends and colleagues that love is blind and marriage restore sight. But each time when I tried telling them all these sob stories these people will think I'm crazy and find me hilarious. They will never get those words of wisdom into your ears until the day when they realized who is the guy/gal sleeping next to him/her.

[jnudes]

Originally Posted by MobileSuits

I have been telling some of friends and colleagues that love is blind and marriage restore sight. But each time when I tried telling them all these sob stories these people will think I'm crazy and find me hilarious. They will never get those words of wisdom into your ears until the day when they realized who is the guy/gal sleeping next to him/her.

You are right. At your work place don't be so kepo lah. Just do your own work and mind your own business. Most young ppl are addicted to their phones they won't have time to advise other people. Sad but true. Even if your advice is helpful to them most will not even say thank you. Again sad but true.

[Shadow_warrior]

things all changed after I married my cabin crew wife, she was away most of the time during all the festives and holidays for the first few years

When she got grounded, I thought great, but then she worked late and it was like she wasn't here at all, I ate dinner alone just as I did when she was flying

Now we have 1 child, she comes home early. Great? No, she spends all her energy on the child, no attention to me. Or the home, the housework was never done, and I ended up cleaning the house after her all the time, yet holding 2 jobs.

When she found out I had a FB, she was mad, but I told her, our marriage doesn't work. Having her as a wife, yet eating alone, she doesn't know anything about my life, my work, we don't bother to call or text during the day, no communication whatsoever, no care no concern. We also don't have sex. For 8 years in marriage, we have nothing to show.

And she had nothing to say in her defence. I almost walked out, I mean, seriously this started when I realise who I married wasn't committed to having a life with me, but for the child I stayed.

[EtherC]

Kudos to being a 孝子. However a good number of the local ladies wouldn't consider dating a 孝子because they want to be on the guy's pedestal. Which is rather mind boggling because if the guy doesn't care about his mother, what does it say about his character?

Originally Posted by jnudes

Currently I am taking care of my mother who just had Stage 1 ovarian cancer removal operation. Luckily it wasn't serious; she don't need to go through radiation or chemotheraphy and currently resting at home.

[sunhuan-con]

Originally Posted by EtherC

Kudos to being a 孝子. However a good number of the local ladies wouldn't consider dating a 孝子because they want to be on the guy's pedestal. Which is rather mind boggling because if the guy doesn't care about his mother, what does it say about his character?

Some girls even told me they prefer orphan....they dont like mama boy.

[VielSpass]

Originally Posted by sunhuan-con

Some girls even told me they prefer orphan....they dont like mama boy.

well....we only have one mother....wife or gf can always change. Cannot expect us to ignore our mothers.

[orangeproud]

Originally Posted by VielSpass

well....we only have one mother....wife or gf can always change. Cannot expect us to ignore our mothers.

Nowadays, it's rare to find a filial son especially for those married guy. To b filial indeed is a gd virtue n tat show us we r grateful for whom born n bought us up. Mostly, guys usually after marry will listen to their wife rather than their mum.

[orangeproud]

Originally Posted by sunhuan-con

Some girls even told me they prefer orphan....they dont like mama boy.

Some mama boy is juz indecisive, can't make up his own mind. but frankly speaking in reality cant hv best of ur world, please ur mum n ur wife at the same time unless the two can get along very well.

[Arcadia999]

Cannot say regret la...When dating itchin to get married so can hv a place of our own to bonk...Aft few years bonking bcame stale...Start to look outside for quick release b4 go home

No regret in marrying cox at the end of a tiring day, there's always my wife to comfort me although not sexually

[tanny82]

this thread is scaring people off marriage haha, how to boost birth rate