Do you regret marrying?

[hugs]

I don't regret. In fact I am ready to marry again ( hope this is helpful)

[Greenfrog]

Originally Posted by tanny82

this thread is scaring people off marriage haha, how to boost birth rate

let the government decide then.

Singaporean males should not be made to suffer.

[jnudes]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

When she found out I had a FB, she was mad, but I told her, our marriage doesn't work. Having her as a wife, yet eating alone, she doesn't know anything about my life, my work, we don't bother to call or text during the day, no communication whatsoever, no care no concern. We also don't have sex. For 8 years in marriage, we have nothing to show.

I hate to say this but I think your marriage going down the hill. It's no different than one married couple living separately and later getting divorced. Ever heard of one saying there's no difference being married and being single these days? I am still single and ok with it. Even without a partner I still know how to
satisfy myself sexually, most of the times DIY at home and if get super bored visit MP or pub to chill.

[jnudes]

Originally Posted by EtherC

Kudos to being a 孝子. However a good number of the local ladies wouldn't consider dating a 孝子because they want to be on the guy's pedestal. Which is rather mind boggling because if the guy doesn't care about his mother, what does it say about his character?

Local ladies sees 孝子 as something outdated and not relevant in current society which I can understand. Wait till you hear local ladies neglecting their sick parents at home which had already happened. Luckily the parents relative came over and took care of them for one month while their daughters were busy with their career and marriage life. Unfortunately they have abandoned 孝子 from their life and only think of themselves more than anything else.

[Greenfrog]

Originally Posted by jnudes

Local ladies sees 孝子 as something outdated and not relevant in current society which I can understand. Wait till you hear local ladies neglecting their sick parents at home which had already happened. Luckily the parents relative came over and took care of them for one month while their daughters were busy with their career and marriage life. Unfortunately they have abandoned 孝子 from their life and only think of themselves more than anything else.

local woman dont want 孝子. they just want man with the qualities of a dog.

[jnudes]

Originally Posted by orangeproud

Mostly, guys usually after marry will listen to their wife rather than their mum.

This 100% agree with you. I see many. I hear many stories. And this thing is happening with my uncles too. Three sons (uncles) cannot take care of one mother (my grandmother). Daughters (my mother) need to get involved too. And this real life drama is still ongoing.

[hugs]

Haiz, don't marry a girl becos she is pretty, marry her becos she is 'good for you'. Get to know her heart and her mind, and be impressed with those things more than you are impressed with her looks. I am not saying pretty means bad, or that air stewardess means bad so don't misunderstand. But is like my thread, no meet up but thru communication, get to 'know' someone.

[a2014]

Marriage is not mend to be regret later on. Sis hugs has the point, don't look at exterior. You may have a very good girl that fulfill all your requirement from the kitchen to outdoor but doesn't perform or don't love sex, that does not means she is no good.

On the other hand you may get a very good looking and well shape girl, super on bed but do nothing in the house or even worst eating side dish outside.

We all have to learn how to adore each other, trust and accommodate each other short coming before a marriage can last. Rushing into a marriage is not going to do any good especially when either party has many suitors. It takes two hands to clap. One wrong move and it's the end of the story and you will have to start all over again.

[maxman]

Originally Posted by hugs

Haiz, don't marry a girl becos she is pretty, marry her becos she is 'good for you'. Get to know her heart and her mind, and be impressed with those things more than you are impressed with her looks. I am not saying pretty means bad, or that air stewardess means bad so don't misunderstand. But is like my thread, no meet up but thru communication, get to 'know' someone.

Very true about marrying a woman who is most importantly good for you, and less importantly a good-looker to you.

The right choice of a woman to sail through life is to be your partner, buddy, comrade and team mate who will support you when you meet rough seas and not quickly jump ship to the first man who flashes the cash.

Life will always present rough seas. It is never like a fairy tale. While dating, men should assess how much of an unrealistic fairy tale attitude she has. If it is obvious and strong, she is not the woman to marry.

[JacqueMerlin]

Originally Posted by maxman

Very true about marrying a woman who is most importantly good for you, and less importantly a good-looker to you.

The right choice of a woman to sail through life is to be your partner, buddy, comrade and team mate who will support you when you meet rough seas and not quickly jump ship to the first man who flashes the cash.

Life will always present rough seas. It is never like a fairy tale. While dating, men should assess how much of an unrealistic fairy tale attitude she has. If it is obvious and strong, she is not the woman to marry.

Don't be surprised to see men demanding their girls as SYT good figure kpop actress looks... but they look like shit themselves.

[maxman]

Originally Posted by JacqueMerlin

Don't be surprised to see men demanding their girls as SYT good figure kpop actress looks... but they look like shit themselves.

I'm not surprised, and I have seen such coupling.

If any relationship is together based on hot looks and hot sex, it is unlikely to go the distance because a long term relationship, even if it does not reach marriage, requires more than hot looks and hot sex.

[hugs]

while men assessing women, women too are doing the same thing, assessing the men. To see if the men jump ship during shitty time. So i'll say to those going thru dating, hang in there during this 1st phrase if they are serious abt the r/s. Why bother to start only to leave the moment the heat is on? And to the women, don't offer sex during dating

Originally Posted by maxman

I'm not surprised, and I have seen such coupling.

If any relationship is together based on hot looks and hot sex, it is unlikely to go the distance because a long term relationship, even if it does not reach marriage, requires more than hot looks and hot sex.

Originally Posted by maxman

Very true about marrying a woman who is most importantly good for you, and less importantly a good-looker to you.

The right choice of a woman to sail through life is to be your partner, buddy, comrade and team mate who will support you when you meet rough seas and not quickly jump ship to the first man who flashes the cash.

Life will always present rough seas. It is never like a fairy tale. While dating, men should assess how much of an unrealistic fairy tale attitude she has. If it is obvious and strong, she is not the woman to marry.

[D-joker]

Originally Posted by hugs

while men assessing women, women too are doing the same thing, assessing the men. To see if the men jump ship during shitty time. So i'll say to those going thru dating, hang in there during this 1st phrase if they are serious abt the r/s. Why bother to start only to leave the moment the heat is on? And to the women, don't offer sex during dating

Lol. Sad to say this is true. If I ever have a daughter, i will tel her not to have sex with a guy until they get marry. Then must buy marriage insurance then can have sex. LOL...

[lawry]

Originally Posted by D-joker

Lol. Sad to say this is true. If I ever have a daughter, i will tel her not to have sex with a guy until they get marry. Then must buy marriage insurance then can have sex. LOL...

You two must be joking. In current society, sex is too highly regard. Lol

[JacqueMerlin]

Originally Posted by D-joker

Lol. Sad to say this is true. If I ever have a daughter, i will tel her not to have sex with a guy until they get marry. Then must buy marriage insurance then can have sex. LOL...

Then he will also cut loss and move on.