Do you regret marrying?

[Jevv]

Originally Posted by panzer3

Just wanna share the weight I carrying in my heart for a couple of days already, hopefully can find some answers or advices here.

I'm my late 20s, already proposed to my gf of 4yrs and suddenly, my heart go and like someone else. It just feels like I'm falling in love again, that kind of sweet/bitter feelings. No need to explain too much here, just wondering if this is normal and how should I deal with it? Thanks a lot people..

Then why in the 1st place you proposed to ur gf? Becoze of its time (age not young le)? she is the right woman u think u can spend the rest of ur life with? Becoze of "all my friends ard me are getting married?" I dun wanna b the odd one out..or she hv "hinted" you? or probably due to familarity maybe?...well the list goes on & on...

Please think carefully as marriage is a lifelong commitment

[snakehead]

Originally Posted by panzer3

hopefully can find some answers or advices here.

Dun ever ever get married.

[HelloAngel]

Originally Posted by panzer3

Just wanna share the weight I carrying in my heart for a couple of days already, hopefully can find some answers or advices here.

I'm my late 20s, already proposed to my gf of 4yrs and suddenly, my heart go and like someone else. It just feels like I'm falling in love again, that kind of sweet/bitter feelings. No need to explain too much here, just wondering if this is normal and how should I deal with it? Thanks a lot people..

I don't think you are ready to be married. Are you sure you are falling in love again or its just lust? It costs $26 to register a marriage but prob 150x more to get out of a marriage. For a guy, still need to factor in alimony n child maintenance. Perhaps you n your fiancée should attend pre-marriage counselling and then decide if it's worth the plunge. Some people get married because their family and friends expect them to after dating so long. And then regret after that cos of differences or unsolved issues. Think carefully. Good luck!

[panzer3]

Originally Posted by HelloAngel

I don't think you are ready to be married. Are you sure you are falling in love again or its just lust? It costs $26 to register a marriage but prob 150x more to get out of a marriage. For a guy, still need to factor in alimony n child maintenance. Perhaps you n your fiancée should attend pre-marriage counselling and then decide if it's worth the plunge. Some people get married because their family and friends expect them to after dating so long. And then regret after that cos of differences or unsolved issues. Think carefully. Good luck!

not lust definitely.. it is that same old feeling i had 10 years back when i liked someone so much..

but its like everyone knows that we are getting married and already BTO.. do you think i should really go for pre-marriage counselling?

[Jevv]

Originally Posted by panzer3

not lust definitely.. it is that same old feeling i had 10 years back when i liked someone so much..

but its like everyone knows that we are getting married and already BTO.. do you think i should really go for pre-marriage counselling?

U shld..now that you are abt to get married to your gf..u shld b looking fwd to the day rather then having some fondness to another girl..

Be fair to your gf..I believe you also dun want the same thing to happen to you rite? She is gg to be married to you in XX months/year time & now she has this type of feelings for another guy

[datou]

If u r a cheongster, then better don't marry.
Cause its very difficult to resist temptation not to cheong.
You will only cause distress to the girl.
My friend 10yrs gf also dump cause of syts cheonging.

Don't marry if your love for her is not ocean deep or just like her mainly because of beauty or body shape or good in sex.

After 10yrs or give birth become miss Piggy no more attractive u will regret.

[HelloAngel]

Originally Posted by panzer3

not lust definitely.. it is that same old feeling i had 10 years back when i liked someone so much..

but its like everyone knows that we are getting married and already BTO.. do you think i should really go for pre-marriage counselling?

Yes, please go for pre-marriage counselling. Everyone knows you are getting married and have BTO, so what? You are not focused to go through the marriage process and better to get out now rather than hurting your fiancée by going through the customary wedding.

I think you will prob keep falling in love with other gals during the days of your life. So, better remain single and don't get married. Less headache and heartache.

[panzer3]

Thanks for the replies people.

I have already have plans with my gf, but the fondness of someone else just kicked in out of nowhere and I actually hate it. It will make me lose focus whenever I have that feeling e.g missing her suddenly. I just hope that I can get out of this 'love trap hole' and let me resume my normal life.

No doubt the honeymoon period with my gf had die down, but I don't think I will just give her up and become single just like that.

[Vectra]

Originally Posted by panzer3

not lust definitely.. it is that same old feeling i had 10 years back when i liked someone so much..

but its like everyone knows that we are getting married and already BTO.. do you think i should really go for pre-marriage counselling?

Life is so short. If you are not ready to enter another phase of life(married, house, kids), why proceed?

[Vectra]

Originally Posted by panzer3

Thanks for the replies people.

I have already have plans with my gf, but the fondness of someone else just kicked in out of nowhere and I actually hate it. It will make me lose focus whenever I have that feeling e.g missing her suddenly. I just hope that I can get out of this 'love trap hole' and let me resume my normal life.

No doubt the honeymoon period with my gf had die down, but I don't think I will just give her up and become single just like that.

Any phase of life at the later stage are dull and bored as one is already used to it. Just going thru the motion. Or discover stuff are to displeasure. It will then be to learn to tolerate, avoid or compromise...

[Vectra]

Originally Posted by HelloAngel

Yes, please go for pre-marriage counselling. Everyone knows you are getting married and have BTO, so what? You are not focused to go through the marriage process and better to get out now rather than hurting your fiancée by going through the customary wedding.

I think you will prob keep falling in love with other gals during the days of your life. So, better remain single and don't get married. Less headache and heartache.

Marriage in different era are so different. These days marriage is just like a piece of paper. Just watched Men is from Mars, Women is from Venus on Channel U a week or 2 ago, there are so many differences even with those that had married for 10-20 years...

[topcook1]

Originally Posted by Vectra

Marriage in different era are so different. These days marriage is just like a piece of paper. Just watched Men is from Mars, Women is from Venus on Channel U a week or 2 ago, there are so many differences even with those that had married for 10-20 years...

Man and woman from different planets......however woman always wants man to give in to them and they are always right ..coz they have golden pussy ....sigh....

[Beretta]

Originally Posted by panzer3

No doubt the honeymoon period with my gf had die down, but I don't think I will just give her up and become single just like that.

Bro, how old are you? Do not destroy your life just like that.
I am only 24 this year but I had already decided a couple of years ago to remain single for the rest of my life. That decision solved a lot of issues then in my life and also not have problems coming to mess with my life. My current lifestyle is so freedom and problem free. Best advice I ever had was being told "DO NOT EVER GET MARRIED IN SINGAPORE!"

[Captainoceania77]

Originally Posted by Beretta

"DO NOT EVER GET MARRIED IN SINGAPORE!"

First time heard of this. Is something new and yet still so many get hitch too. Sad

[Acemann]

Wonder why just Singapore ?

Originally Posted by Beretta

Bro, how old are you? Do not destroy your life just like that.
I am only 24 this year but I had already decided a couple of years ago to remain single for the rest of my life. That decision solved a lot of issues then in my life and also not have problems coming to mess with my life. My current lifestyle is so freedom and problem free. Best advice I ever had was being told "DO NOT EVER GET MARRIED IN SINGAPORE!"