Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Santaclaws]

Originally Posted by vtec123

hello brothers

to start of, i have been cheong for quite sometimes , frequent places like HC, TN, KTV..etc
lately have been intro to JC/GL pubs with Viet WL
the stories starts here....
have hear abt JC pubs, but never been there before
i have been always "anti-viet" or rather, to me viet cant speak chinese, therefore comms its a barrier.dont really like to freq jc pubs.
one fine day this pal jio me for a drink at JC pubs.
first time experience was so-so, most of the viet sit with me cant communicate well.
so i was still right in a sense.but the pubs seems to be fine,songs, so we did went back a few times.

on one of the trip to a JC pubs, i came across a SYT viet WL.
to my surprise , she speak good chn. and we all were chatting very well . contacts was exchange
i have been cheong for many years and always remind myself never get inlvoed with real feeling with a WL.
and all this while nothing happen....
by things has changed after since i got to know this viet
this gal took initiatives to sms, and she can text quite good eng.
so it all started here. sending mornign greeting text..blah blah blah.
then came our first outing (purely chatting, not sex transcation as yet) , talking abt herself why she was here.
she told me how poor she was in vietnam. why she needs to work, got a few fam member to feed.
but i never buy her stories ( be it Viet or PRC) , just nob my head and say" yes, yeah". i always on gurad against all these stories.
and then there were subsequent outings ( no sex yet), and i began to develop a feel for her. my guard against her drop completely as she has gained my trust
one fine nite she sms me, and i went to pick up after work.
after chatting a while, i suggest to go hotel, she is fine.
this is the first time we make love, and this is one of the memorabel experinece, very passionate , lots of feels & bonding.after that to my surprise, she dint take my cash, i was like err...this is a service, so i have to pay for it, she say no, " i dont want".
i always remind myself SAF = Sex And Forget.as i dont want to get messy with WL. to me transcation is sex=cash for them
i insisted, but she refused, so i dont forced. i compensate by brign her to shopping, but she dint also buy expensive item, only cheap 10~ 20 dollar shirts.
as the day pass by, i grew feelings for her. sometimes, she would skip work and text me to pick her up after work just to chat.
we dont make love frequent, but feelings develop fast. weird right? think real feelings creep in...(shit)
time came and she got to go back vietnam.
as she been here for serveal years, ( she got regular pal (customer) to send her to airport, think bf lah) so she don allow me to send.
when she was gone, i miss her, i text her VN mobile , we kept in touch.
not long after she went back. i told her i would like to visit her in VN, she said fine.

alamak.. to be contiune, need to serach for jobs openings..
brother pls up me..hahaha

i've been thru this phrase 2 times already, am still going thru 1 atm. While u may enjoy the relationship and kc while it may last, the more feelings u put into this dream, the more hurt and heartache u'll get later. Success stories are too few, and even fewer if she's a hot babe.

Just try to survive thru this, a few more times u'll be able to numb your heart so u'll neither feel love, joy or pain in most relationships anymore. With this condition, it can be a blessing to some but a curse to others.

[leecs]

Originally Posted by casannova03

Well, most beginnings are sweet and memorable....

It's when you progress on to the middle and later parts that you see if its genuine...so do be cautious!

If it turns out well, then good for you...if not, just make sure that it doesn't devastate you yeah?

Thanks for the advice. I treat this as a "game"... Theres no future between me & the girl....

[vtec123]

thanks, bro SingViet.. my encountered continues.. hope bros can UP me...

.....with this extra-odinaary love encounter, ( the best is yet to be, followed by downs..)

infact, the words i always came across,
"absence make a heart grow fonder" best describe my feelings.

to date, i have never been separate so "far away" from my loves one,
most of my ex-gf were sgporean, even separate were one to two week of ICT trg no big deals.

for this viet gf, i have mix feelings, i went distance, to buy chat chat card, make daily calls, day, afternoon, and nites...w/o fail.

i cant believe myself, am i in love with her? i am still struggling ..am i dreaming?
how come i fall in love with a Viet WL (no offence to brothers who had VN gf/wife, apologized for being so skeptical)
all the questions come poping up....why, how, ..what..
i am in a dilemma..to be frank, i am touched when she left that day
i dont expect her to sms me on the day she left for VN
i could still recall vividly …recalling that early morning…
that was a monday morning. still in bed and out a sudden, my leg kena"cramp" and it send kinda "eletric-shock" to my body, for that my head to knock against my bedroom wall, i jump out of bed, and watch the clock 705am,so coincidently phone played "you got mail" ..
i grap my phone , and the sms was from her, it shows " joe, i am leaving, take care"
my heart pumps very fast, and i quickly dial her number worrying she shut her phone, coz the flight is 715am.
1st try …shit busy tone, die die must get thru. I was panicky,,,,
2nd attempt was successful, w/o any hesitation, i said loudly to her " i will miss you very much, I LOVE YOU". This is the first time I said the words “ I love you” to her…
she was touched, and she respond “我很感动” …my hearts melts…
<<was this the telepathetic path that I shared with her ?? first was the eletirc shock and then came the sms…somehow I felt that we were emotionally /virtually – attached to each other..>>

have been leading 3 good years of singlehood, I had never re-open my heart all these years, even though there are some girls(non-WL) that came across.
for this viet girl really touches my heart, she is the key to “re-open” my heart “心琐”.

Same Monday morning, 1030am….,my phone rings , number appearing +84xxxxxxxxxxx, it was her , I answered, she said “I have reach HCMC…I miss you in while the plane and was so cold”. My hearts melt further..
I told her, I miss you too…blah blah, we chatted for abt ten minutes before I come to senses, that I have a meeting coming up. I told her take care …


Ok back to the main…
Two days later, still trying to straighten my thoughts…
I finally have the courage to book the air tickets online on the 3rd day ….
Why I make the choice,
1) I miss her, find my true love…
2) Want see how her home condition
3) First trip to HCMC, make it as eye opener
4) Got long time ICT pal running business there, so as to explore the possibility to invest in his biz.

Yoyo..guys , its late, tmr gota work,,,
To be continue,…

[jackbl]

Long time no see u post here. H r u? When ur em re come sgp?

Originally Posted by casannova03

Well, most beginnings are sweet and memorable....

[chanyboy]

Originally Posted by SingViet

You can always make their living condition better by giving a few thousand USD to build a new house

???..few tens of thousand USD more like it?

[Honey Boon]

sweet turns sour when come to money issue ....

Originally Posted by casannova03

Well, most beginnings are sweet and memorable....

It's when you progress on to the middle and later parts that you see if its genuine...so do be cautious!

If it turns out well, then good for you...if not, just make sure that it doesn't devastate you yeah?

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

sweet turns sour when come to money issue ....

hahaha...easy to settle when money is concern...act blur...just give what you can and comfortable to give...

[casannova03]

Originally Posted by jackbl

Long time no see u post here. H r u? When ur em re come sgp?

Yeah! With this economy now, I have to put in double the efforts to get the same results as last time...haha...so that explains why i am always not in here...just once in a while

Well, if everything goes as planned, she should be here between 2-3 mths time ba...i also not very sure..

[casannova03]

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

sweet turns sour when come to money issue ....

Well, then it depends on what kind of money issues we are talking about.....

And of course more importantly, the true value and significance of the money to you..I say this because the value and significance that one places on money is very different from one another... Its different from the argument of being rich or poor altogether...Its your personal valuation and assessment of the existing wealth you owned and how you justify your own spendings that matters..


Some friends I know do not bat an eyelid when they spent like 20k for modifying their cars...To them, they see it as very worthwhile because of the value they see in the finished product -the modified car. To them, the importance of 20k pales in comparison to being the owner of a souped-up car, of which they are the proud owners - and pls bear in mind they are just normal wage workers earning like 2500-3500 per month, nothing spectacular.

To me, if i were to use my own values towards money to judge them, I'll simply say they're insane!!! I'll rather take 5k enjoy myself at the KTV in the company of girls and save the excess 15k in the bank. But if you were to ask them to spend money my way, they'll not even take out more than $50 to spend on drinks.....

So at the end of the day, it's what money really means to you and what you deemed to be worthy of spending on, that is the most important thing.

* the above are my views and I speak for my own and does not represent anyone or any groups, whether intentional or unintentional....etc etc...shit!! reading too many contracts lately..hahaha

[69ASIMO69]

Hi bros here who married Vietnamese Spouse and got the Permanent Resident Ship.. I'm getting married next month and once after I got my ROM cert. I will apply the long term pass for her. Need a check with you guys, Can I submit the PR application too when applying the long term pass? I visited ICA personally, I was told that I dont need to wait for any time frame to apply for Permanent Resident Ship as some bros here mention 2 years. The officer told me as long as all documents needed are ready, submit it. They will access. Any advice from bros here who got their wife PR recently? A million thanks

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by 69ASIMO69

Hi bros here who married Vietnamese Spouse and got the Permanent Resident Ship.. I'm getting married next month and once after I got my ROM cert. I will apply the long term pass for her. Need a check with you guys, Can I submit the PR application too when applying the long term pass? I visited ICA personally, I was told that I dont need to wait for any time frame to apply for Permanent Resident Ship as some bros here mention 2 years. The officer told me as long as all documents needed are ready, submit it. They will access. Any advice from bros here who got their wife PR recently? A million thanks

Bro, you can apply for PR for yr wife once she is officially married to you. There is no need to wait for 2 years. I think what other brothers mentioned is the PR to Citizenship period. After gotten PR, you need to wait for 2 years before you can apply for citizenship for yr wife. The LTSVP is to allow yr wife to stay in singapore officially while she awaits for her PR application result. if PR rejected, she can also stay on in Singapore under LTSVP as Spouse of Singaporean.

[David_Villa]

Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

I am back to this thread again..

Bro, nice to see u back again.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by vtec123

i have been cheong for many years and always remind myself never get inlvoed with real feeling with a WL.
and all this while nothing happen....
by things has changed after since i got to know this viet

not long after she went back. i told her i would like to visit her in VN, she said fine.

Originally Posted by vtec123

Two days later, still trying to straighten my thoughts…
I finally have the courage to book the air tickets online on the 3rd day ….
Why I make the choice,
1) I miss her, find my true love…
2) Want see how her home condition

Good luck to you... buying a ticket to vietnam to see her will means that you will fall deeper in love with her...

1) i bet you that if you come back to silypore, you will miss her even more.
2) be prepared if you see their living condition. It may look bad to us, but maybe it is okay for them.

[Honey Boon]

yes, fully agreed... cos I just help my friend's friend to do the whole process as he has difficulties in language, right after his newly wed wife came into singapore, he quickly applied the LTSVP for the wife. Last time can submit on behalf, but after Apr 09, applicant and sponsor must be present during submission. KNN... waited the whole morning for submission, the lady officer only asked the applicant one question: Are you pregnant? took us 3 minutes to complete the submission, paid $30 and extend another 2 months while waiting for the approval of the LTSVP.

Went to counter to ask about applying for PR, officier said can apply right away while waiting for LTSVP, both application are not conflict to each other. But now for submission of PR, no more walk in like before. Now must use E-appointment to book a date for PR submission. I did for my friend's friend two weeks ago, and the earliest time slot was like late July.

Originally Posted by SingViet

Bro, you can apply for PR for yr wife once she is officially married to you. There is no need to wait for 2 years. I think what other brothers mentioned is the PR to Citizenship period. After gotten PR, you need to wait for 2 years before you can apply for citizenship for yr wife. The LTSVP is to allow yr wife to stay in singapore officially while she awaits for her PR application result. if PR rejected, she can also stay on in Singapore under LTSVP as Spouse of Singaporean.

[papillon30]

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