Should I give her another chance

[newbieboy]

You looking for a unique way to see this? Here's one:

She prefers another man's dick to yours.

[jialatjinjin]

Originally Posted by he-man11

On behalf of a good brother of mine. For easy typing, I will relate the subject as myself.

GF of 5 yrs. i'm 30, she's 27. i watched her change from a spoilt little princess into someone who loves eating at coffee shops and watch what she spends. she's still a little naive in her thinking and at times not the most responsible person due to her sheltered upbringing.

other than the occasional quarrel when she gets her pms, we hardly ever quarrel out of this 5 yrs. people look at us as the perfect couple. she's treats me like her king and i pamper her like my little princess. i've never been with another girl who treats me the same way like she does. not even close. as a bonus, sex life is amazing. even after these yrs, we still can't wait to jump into bed and get it on like a pair of horny rabbits.

she has a bad habit of lying though. nothing major in the beginning. things like where she went and who she was with. and when confronted, she will cover with stories after stories until she's presented with cold hard evidence would she admit it. thats human nature i guess. so well, i forgave her time after time and things actually improved(or maybe she just got better at it) that i managed to trust her completely.

we talked about marriage and we intended to do it in a yrs time. she's the first that i actually wanted to marry. and for a fact, she wants to get married to me for the longest time. just that my financials are not stable yet.

cut the story short, she went on an overseas trip and met another guy. 4 yrs younger than her. i don't know what the guy did to her but it managed to convince her that she deserves to be treated much better and she broke up with me 2 weeks after knowing him. that guy bought her a ticket and she flew over to spend time with him. she told me she's there just to get away from everything and clear her mind. we all know thats not the case. wanting to fight for the women i love, i flew over to try to win her back.

unfortunately, the worst had happened. she slept with him on her 2nd night there. and guess what, i forgave her and ask her to come back with me. she eventually agreed to come back with me saying that now she realised how much i really love her, she saw how hurt i am, her mind was clouded and she didn't know what the hell she was doing, and she really regretted it.

fast-forward 1 week after we're back in sg and decided to start anew, she contacted that guy again and they are back to the lovey-dovey messages and phone calls everyday again. my heart really died this time and i initiated a break up.(first time from me). she's devastated now. crying everyday and begging me to give her 1 last chance. btw, all the things i found out are through endless questionings and cover-up stories.

it seems like a pretty straight-forward case here. the normal rational would be to move on and find someone else who truly deserves my love. infact i would advice the same to someone else. but when u r so in love with someone and u're in it yourself, it's just so difficult. based on the fact that this is the first time she's realising that she's really losing me for good, will she really learn her lesson?(im thinking that she didn't learn her lesson the previous time bcuz i always forgive her too easily) she's still in contact with that guy now but she didn't jump to him now. it would be alot easier for her to do that but she didn't and instead just wants me back so badly. is that worth considering giving her another chance?

i know what the rational thinking should be. infact i'm trying to move on but it hurts so much cuz i really love her alot.

bros out there who had shared similar experience, i would love to hear what u did and wat was the outcome.

sisters out there, pls share with me your views as a women cuz there are certain things we men would never understand.

Thank you everyone.


broken hearted man

you damn lucky you no marry her yet.

move on. go cheong hc. ktv. okt.

fuck all your sadness out. then ok already.

[kenlong2003]

Originally Posted by Megatronzombie

Bro TS

I had the exact same problem many yrs ago with my then gf. She cheated with her colleague then i found out. My heart broke like never before she kept apologising and with much effort i forgave her. 1 week later slept with her colleague again!! I was flin upset until i call my gangster buddy to burn the guy's house down. Funny thing my fren advised me he can do it but think twie whether i really wanted to or not. Anyway after much pleadingand crying i actually forgave her! Fast forward oneyr she got pregnant and she claimed that was because she was raped by her colleague. She had an abortion and again wonders of wonders i believed her. Now fast forward to present and she is my wife of some yrs and fuess what? She is now very close to a ... Tats correct, a colleague! she refused to admit anything and since this time i found out early i believed her. But what if i didnt find out earlier? What would have happened? Do you see a trend goin on in my story here? Indeed it is ery hard For atiger to change his spots. I never go FL or spa but i went as a revenge on her long ago and ended up hooked to FLs and spas until some yrs back i retired from it coz bece jaded liao one FL look like another wats the point? Anyway u asked if anyone has similar experience so i tell u mine. Its ultimately up to u if u wan to continue with ur gf or break the relationship. For your info my thengf now my wife also drop dead pretty so what? She act like a slut i might as well hire a real slut and bang her rite?

Bro, i really admire you to be able to go through all these heartbreaking painful situation. Hope all things goes well for you and hope your wife change for you.

[fornlcator]

bro

In life certain thing really no choice. The better way is let go and move on Sir

[SpeedRacer]

Bro 'you' are 30 liao leh, 5 years is not a short time. If i were you, i will take a break and clear my head first. I'll only let her back if she is genuinely sincere, and will be monitored constantly.

[prettymannequin]

For the sole reason of not being able to have an open and honest relationship, I'd suggest dumping her already...

On your part, has your relationship become too comfortable, and have you been slacking off in making her fall in love with you again and again? She's prolly seeking fun and excitement.

[sixplus]

can see that you really love her a lot, to the point that you are willing to forgive her for the things that she had done. after being so long together, definitely you will feel if it is worth to just let go of the relationship now.

since you have initiated the breakup, no harm giving yourself more time to think about it. if you guys really can't let go of each other, you will still end up together somehow.

nobody can assure you what will happen in future. history may repeat itself. so it is up to you whether you think you can accept her for who she is. If you think you can't accept such things about her for the rest of your life (if you get married), then you should move on.

I know it sounds easier said than done. I have my dilemmas too. haha. take care.

[DANiel™]

If she only needed a few weeks to know the guy and a few days to fuck the guy...I think the answer is pretty obvious.
She's a pathological liar based on what u described her past.

End off with a saying; Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me

[BBBJOK]

Good day

In this situation can be sad to let go. Still my suggestion is let go and move
on.

Regards

[SBCheongSter]

To be more open minded, I will like to ask if you can accept her having another guy overseas and being with you when she is in Singapore.
Since she had lied to you saying she will cut all relationships with him but yet she still continue to meet him. I will think she treasure lust with him more than being with you.
If you really really love her, I will think that you can probably give her a final chance for the benefits of her being with you. But remember and you should tell yourself that this is her final chance. And you should let her know also. If she still lie and continue to contact him, it will be her choice and her decision and you should move on.

[sggamer]

maybe look for another one. in the meanwhile, treat her like dirt until you get a better one.
if she really wanted to go back to you, she would have stop seeing the other guy for real and stop all communications with him.

[MrSeahLK]

Indeed one last chance will do. Hope she will U-turn.

Wish you the best

[ace_hole55]

Bro, do u reali love her? Den test her.. is abit tough but sometimes reali work. U start not to show concern on her, gif her any ans when she text u, or she nvr text den u dun text her. Jus do those things tat u normally the opp ways. If she loves u, u will surely sense e diff.. But it may back fire hor. U may push her ckoser to the guy. So ur choice.

[ace_hole55]

thank bros for the zap. saying my idea is stupid. but u nvr try, den u will nvr noe. u haf been giving her all e attention. try other way rd, it may help.

[ace_hole55]

Every bros zap me bcos im giving stupid idea. Well dis situation happened to me b4. The more i care, the more she heck care me. So a good fren of mine whom is a female ask me to try dis idea. If tat woman still loves u, she will be wondering sudden change of u. Plus mine is bcos she n tat guy became nasty, tat when she tink the better side of me. N we r finally back after 8mths. For those bros who zap me. How many of u haf encounter such situation b4? N how did u solve yours den. Pls share n dun zap onli. Although i dun care much abt points but im jus trying to help. Tks.