Do you regret marrying?

[bergamot]

Originally Posted by maxsee

I only regretted not marrying my wife earlier....

End of the day, when u marry the wrong person. You will always have a thousand and one reasons why u should not be getting married.

But when u married the right person, that is another story...

So sweet.

[brandontee]

sometime yes when you look at the sexless marriage. But when you look at your kids, everything just perks back up again.

[lechlee]

I became asexual towards my wife just a few months after marriage. I studied psychology and invested alot of time in sexology, and couldn't believe that even I can't save myself from this state of mind. We are now coming to 2 years of marriage and it has always been my wife initiating sex. I even pretend to be tired or not feeling well on some days just so we don't need to have sex. Sex becomes a tiring chore.. an obligation I have to deliver..
Some people think of marriage as having access pass to free sex anytime anywhere. But the irony is I watch more porn now after marriage more than before and it helps to resolve my pent up sexual tension in an instant.
Things aren't that bad to the point that I become entirely asexual but I fear that such attitude and behaviors towards my wife, despite me being faithful to her, will still have some repercussion in future especially after I have my child.

[larue]

Why do you not desire her?

[thenormalme]

I am happy i never get married. That stupid jackass is one of a kind. Trusted him so much but he betrayed me for so long.

[Tubeboy]

Originally Posted by thenormalme

I am happy i never get married. That stupid jackass is one of a kind. Trusted him so much but he betrayed me for so long.

Oh gosh...can empathize

[FiTypeR]

Yes I do. We are not on good terms after marriage. Before marriage we were doing good. Communication is dual directions. After marriage it became only one way traffic. I am glad I have 2 daughters to keep me going.

[ramon]

I have no regrets being married and I consider marriage as a journey that will be filled with challenges.

Before we have our kid, wifey was kind of not wanting to make decisions and I have to do all the thinking and arrangements on where to eat, shop, holidays etc..

After we have our daughter she starts to be more assertive in what she wants, which initially got me a bit confused but then it's better as I don't need to decide too much.

Nowadays she will get irritated easily due to her not able to communicate clearly in what she wants which sometimes can be from work stress or being a mom to my rascal daughter. She will ask something like 'Where is that round thing?' and initially I will give her a blur look, because I really don't know what she is referring to! Even my daughter will tell her 'Mom! please speak!'

Yeah, now when she just ask me a one liner I will ask her 'le ai simi?, gong ho seh'

Anyways, other than her changing behavior, both of us do not hold grudges, even when we are angry with each other, the silence will not last more than 10 minutes and we'll be talking again.

I guess in marriage or in our lives we will hit milestones like parenting a baby to teenager and then adjusting our lives again when children got married or when you reach 50 and gearing up for retirement and coping with new challenges like health or how to spend your time.

It's very rare to find a perfect match in a married couple, so it's always work in progress till one of you kick the bucket first.

[TightV]

Do i regret marrying?

I am beginning to feel it lately.

In the first place, how did i get myself into this marriage, one may ask.. I got married for convenience. ever heard people saying, "you should marry someone who loves you, more than you love the other person"? I took this statement to practice.

I do love this woman (June) whom i marry, but not the head-over-heels kind. We went through couple of rough patches in our career, hers and mine, supporting each other wherever possible. We had voice our opinions on each other, but have never ever gotten into a "full blown" quarrel/fight. Kudos to her mild temperament. I really take my hats off to her, for swallowing her pride, and enduring my temper.

2 years ago, i raise an issue which has been hanging there for over 2 years.. She said she will do something, however, i did not see efforts. Its is not exactly a big matter, but the seeds of bitterness did grow in me.

Now, my life biggest curveball hit me. I met Lina, and fell in love. Yes, fell in love.

there are so many questions ringing in my head now (in no particular sequence)..

1. Did i fall in love with Lina because i am unhappy with June?
2. Did i fall in love with Lina because she is "something new", "someone fresh"?
3. Do i really want a divorce?
4. Do i wanna go for "true love"?
5. But then again, is this really "true love" with Lina?
6. etc etc...

(names are of course change )

Just ranting...

[Gilengkiatdaddy]

marriage should like a dose of medicine ... eat only when needed

[Greenfrog]

After watching my parents and my close relatives. I was thinking there is no rule to marriage.

In fact the idea of marriage which is to bring union to two different people is very cruel.

[Admiral938]

Originally Posted by Gilengkiatdaddy

marriage should like a dose of medicine ... eat only when needed

very cheem

[Sexythang]

Originally Posted by oreochcolate

This is a very interesting thread; and I've read all 16 pages of it. I would like to offer my personal views on it.

More about myself first: I'm 30 this year, currently single. Holding a very stable job that pays reasonably well. Enough to live comfortably for sure. Have been seeing a foreign woman for 2 years now and will be looking to marry her in the near future.

Firstly, I believe that all men wants a woman who he can depend upon for his emotional and physical needs. More emotional rather than physical. Because physical we can always get outside by paying money. Some bros may say that I can get sex by paying and rave on about how good the bonk is. But to me, the emotional aspect is missing and at best artificial. Sex is best when both participants invest emotions into it. Many a times I end a bonking session feeling empty inside, both emotionally and sperm-wise (haha).

Secondly, marriage is a gamble on our finances. Because to be honest, don't think many of the guys here will be marrying a princess or a sugar mummy. So its between enjoying singlehood and all our materialistic dreams, or having a happy family and all the intangible joys that come with it. I will be able to that drive a BMW and live in a condo if I stay single, but I am not sure whether I will be happier as compared to having a family, living in a HDB flat and driving a Toyota wish.

Lastly, I believe all the bros here do wish that they were married.... to the right women. What do you guys think?

To be honest. Sell the BMW. Big money waster. Spend it on girls or your special one.

[ibanezjem555]

Agree Bro. Buying car is giving the CoE and PARF to White Monkey government so that they can f**k you some more.

That money can do lots of things every month.

Gave up car 2 years back.. now no need to fetch OC, more time to myself, more savings etc..

Lifestyle choice, i guess..

Originally Posted by Sexythang

To be honest. Sell the BMW. Big money waster. Spend it on girls or your special one.

[Timetogo]

Marriage is more suitable for guys who have no life. Work, home, eat, make babies, sleep and then the cycle repeat perpetually. To stay in a marriage, typically there shouldn't have any love, just only a companion to pass time. You see you heard you envy couple married happily, everyday laughing, say cannot live without each other, normally end up divorce. Some just put up a show only and post it in Facebook. They are actually unhappy in the marriage and are waiting to gossip and sow discord about others unhappy marriage.

But when both the men and wife are mature, have a common goal in their life, their marriage can be smooth sailing.