Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[SureScore]

Originally Posted by rudolf

only things which i quite dislike or not sure most bros experience is they would always ask where are u now, what time u be back, who are with now etc... think they like to play mind games alot.

Any advice is appreciated bro shy since u have cross marriage bridge of a viet gal.

You are lucky she bothers to ask. Tell you that if one day she don't ask then time to say bye bye.

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by SureScore

You are lucky she bothers to ask. Tell you that if one day she don't ask then time to say bye bye.

hehehehe ... bro .. you are absolutely right

[rudolf]

Originally Posted by shysaint

many bros in HCM ...

Want to know more bros .. go to :

http://samsforum.asia/showthr...91410&page=488

Thanks bros shy..btw haven book the ticket yet..going today...

normally u guys buy a single trip or round trip...which is better as sometime sees the return flight in usd is cheaper then if buy the round ticket...

[rudolf]

Originally Posted by SureScore

You are lucky she bothers to ask. Tell you that if one day she don't ask then time to say bye bye.

yah..make sense...but hor sometimes because of this, we can argue for this kind things e.g....

she: tai sao mooi mot gio ve har? di choi cung nhau ban har?
me: tai vi hom nay lam nhieu
she:di di, anh lam gi, kg muon hieu..met wa'
me:........ (mind think, like that also "met") blur...lolz

sometimes if most viet gal can understand a little of our sin stupid workholic culture then we are blessed liao..

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by rudolf

yah..make sense...but hor sometimes because of this, we can argue for this kind things e.g....

sometimes if most viet gal can understand a little of our sin stupid workholic culture then we are blessed liao..

hahaha...let us exchange some pointers when we meet up...

Originally Posted by rudolf

she divorce once which was beginning last year & her ex-hub remarry already

then you cannot blame her...once bitten twice shy...

Originally Posted by rudolf

btw just to ask, how often do you guys always go up? once a week, fornightly or month...

During each stay period of how long? How do you guys juggle between the work in singapore or most of the bros here earn living in vietnam?

I can personally can stay for about 2 weeks but when back will have clear my work fast..lolz..

sorry for so many enquires as mores things are need to learn if will really want a viet gal as partner.

some of us are traveling bi-monthly, monthly, etc...short trip 2 to 4 days...if you cannot spare the time and travel often then better dun have long distance relationships...

Originally Posted by rudolf

normally u guys buy a single trip or round trip...which is better as sometime sees the return flight in usd is cheaper then if buy the round ticket...

buy whatever is cheap cheap...

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by rudolf

sometimes if most viet gal can understand a little of our sin stupid workholic culture then we are blessed liao..

This is different culture creates misunderstandings. Most of the time, its we, the singaporean guys, who try to understand their viet culture. I realised that Viets in Singapore still hold on dearly to their culture, often not trying hard to understand the culture in Singapore. At least for me, i tried my best for the last many years to understand viet culture, but there are some areas which i simply cannot tahan and my wife also refuses to give way, this often got to do with my evil MIL and my wife's other sublings.

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by SingViet

This is different culture creates misunderstandings. Most of the time, its we, the singaporean guys, who try to understand their viet culture. I realised that Viets in Singapore still hold on dearly to their culture, often not trying hard to understand the culture in Singapore. At least for me, i tried my best for the last many years to understand viet culture, but there are some areas which i simply cannot tahan and my wife also refuses to give way, this often got to do with my evil MIL and my wife's other sublings.

I guess we do have to give-in in some ways or an other , i think bo bian 1s ..

[rudolf]

Originally Posted by SingViet

This is different culture creates misunderstandings. Most of the time, its we, the singaporean guys, who try to understand their viet culture. I realised that Viets in Singapore still hold on dearly to their culture, often not trying hard to understand the culture in Singapore. At least for me, i tried my best for the last many years to understand viet culture, but there are some areas which i simply cannot tahan and my wife also refuses to give way, this often got to do with my evil MIL and my wife's other sublings.

hmmm so end of the day...you give in to everything she wants?

not sure is most viet gal have attitiude problem...just have slight tiff with her again....sianz...

I say go rest tomorrow then chat when you are better..is this the right way as not to quarrel or so?

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by rudolf

hmmm so end of the day...you give in to everything she wants?

not sure is most viet gal have attitiude problem...just have slight tiff with her again....sianz...

I say go rest tomorrow then chat when you are better..is this the right way as not to quarrel or so?

Yes, when both are angry, better not talk for a while till both cool down. Normal viet gals from the province place a lot of emphasis on their parents and family in the province. My wife told me before `even if my mother treats me badly and is crazy, she is still my mother and i will still provide for her'. This is despite the fact that her parents didn't give her much education and the amount of time she feeds her parents is more than the amount of time her parents feed her. These viet gals are most sensitive when you want to control her spending on her family, they will say you look down on her family. I am sure this hot topic always create havoc for bros who has viet spouse. Maybe i am just plain stingy, i do not like to provide for my in-laws as i feel they are damm lazy, only know how to influence my wife for the sake of getting money from me. I make it very clear to my wife that my money is for my 3 children education, not for other uses (trying to hint to her that her family can forget about pinching money from me). Most of the time my wife is alright, she will only not be alright if her sibling comes to my house to stay for a week or so when her sibling will try to brainwash her, then finally, my wife and i will have a heated argument. Damm, my experience tells me that marriage is not between 2 person, its between 2 families. If one family is greedy, it spells trouble for the other....

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Yes, when both are angry, better not talk for a while till both cool down. Normal viet gals from the province place a lot of emphasis on their parents and family in the province. My wife told me before `even if my mother treats me badly and is crazy, she is still my mother and i will still provide for her'. This is despite the fact that her parents didn't give her much education and the amount of time she feeds her parents is more than the amount of time her parents feed her. These viet gals are most sensitive when you want to control her spending on her family, they will say you look down on her family. I am sure this hot topic always create havoc for bros who has viet spouse. Maybe i am just plain stingy, i do not like to provide for my in-laws as i feel they are damm lazy, only know how to influence my wife for the sake of getting money from me. I make it very clear to my wife that my money is for my 3 children education, not for other uses (trying to hint to her that her family can forget about pinching money from me). Most of the time my wife is alright, she will only not be alright if her sibling comes to my house to stay for a week or so when her sibling will try to brainwash her, then finally, my wife and i will have a heated argument. Damm, my experience tells me that marriage is not between 2 person, its between 2 families. If one family is greedy, it spells trouble for the other....

We want to strike a balance also difficult .. sighzzz

[volcano]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Maybe i am just plain stingy, i do not like to provide for my in-laws as i feel they are damm lazy, only know how to influence my wife for the sake of getting money from me. I make it very clear to my wife that my money is for my 3 children education, not for other uses

u r not stingy lah bro...nobody likes to gives or spends their hard earned money away unwisely....like for me,my wife do gives monthly allowance to my MIL,but the amt is only 500k vnd every month....

best part is,i am not the one that stats the amt....its my wife who says that....she say theres no need to give so much....

maybe i am lucky....

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by volcano

u r not stingy lah bro...nobody likes to gives or spends their hard earned money away unwisely....like for me,my wife do gives monthly allowance to my MIL,but the amt is only 500k vnd every month....

best part is,i am not the one that stats the amt....its my wife who says that....she say theres no need to give so much....

maybe i am lucky....

Yes u are one lucky fellow. My wife is normally alright, but if she meets her mother or siblings for a few days, they will keep brain washing her and her thinking will change. After which, I must spend some time to brain wash her back again.

[rudolf]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Yes u are one lucky fellow. My wife is normally alright, but if she meets her mother or siblings for a few days, they will keep brain washing her and her thinking will change. After which, I must spend some time to brain wash her back again.

It's sure's is tired to keep brainwash every now & time when we still have to juggle our work & family at the same time..

For my case, I don even know what's going yesterday just saying sad & boring then ask me to find fish bone in the soup like ask me to go think why she is sad etc etc... don even have slight clue how to answer her...haz.. (best is, could be repeat procedure to ask why she sad but not telling why..) viet gal likes to make their bf or oxa to think alot or only mine??

Today slightly better abit...can chat abit but those where,when & who stills applies even after yesterday. before i could sms her..she sms those again today morning..lolz.. interesting viet culture..

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by rudolf

It's sure's is tired to keep brainwash every now & time when we still have to juggle our work & family at the same time..

For my case, I don even know what's going yesterday just saying sad & boring then ask me to find fish bone in the soup like ask me to go think why she is sad etc etc... don even have slight clue how to answer her...haz.. (best is, could be repeat procedure to ask why she sad but not telling why..) viet gal likes to make their bf or oxa to think alot or only mine??

Today slightly better abit...can chat abit but those where,when & who stills applies even after yesterday. before i could sms her..she sms those again today morning..lolz.. interesting viet culture..

Take your time and Slowly Explore

Welcome to the Club

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How do we really know our vn gal really love you.. I am in r/s with a vn gal now for about 5mths. divorce once. QUOTE]

haha I can always find warmth in this thread everytime I feel helpless with my girl.

Had some conversation with her last month.she looked quite sad at the time, mentioned tat she's sick of working at ktv anymore & will start taking business course here after saving all the $$. She even asked if after she's completed the course & start living with normal job, would I consider her as a serious gf by tat time. since then I cant get good sleep cos hav been thinking bout this question every nite although I'm not a newbie at cheonging, I'm quite stupid when it comes to relationship

I really salute some of the bros here as they are brave enough to choose this path...sometimes I seriously dont understand how come they can be so loyal to their family, even at supporting their already-married elder siblings life expenses....sigh