The Newbie's Guide to Swinging

[theblahhhhh]

Really great advice in the OP!

[Kaylove]

Originally Posted by CuriousCouple

Hi fellow Bros, Sis and Swingers

Every so often, we receive mails and PMs with questions on the swinging lifestyle. While we're no experts, we have had more than our fair share of experiences - from slowly edging out and finding our feet, to really enjoying the freedom of expression the lifestyle can generate.

And of course, we've met many great couples - both married (like ourselves) and not - of different backgrounds and personalities. Thankfully we've had more ups than downs so far *touch wood - if you know what I mean )

So, while this is in no way a definitive guide, we've decided to put down a couple of terminologies and a small reference guide for those finding their feet. And experienced swingers do feel free to add and share as well.

(Un)Definitive Definitions:

• Orgy: A group having sexual fun together - irregardless of gender make-up. Swinging and Gangbangs are a form of Orgies
  
• Swing: Partners required. General rule - Guys come with partners. Single ladies are usually allowed.
  
• Gangbang: Usually ration of guys to gals is at least 2:1.

Labels:

One of the most confusing things that we had trouble keeping up with were the different labels and levels of swingers. It's always good to determine the particular label of the couples and communicate clearly to avoid any sort of unpleasant misunderstandings. Here are some of the common ones.

Soft Swinging:

• Popcorn: Just sit and watch others
  
• SRS: Same room sex - no touching
  
• No Oral: Touching allowed. But oral only to own partner.
  
• ABP: Anything but penetration. Guys... your "little (or not so little) explorer" can only journey into your partner's secret garden. No free trade agreement to enter into the other. Or even touch the gates. Oral is OK.

Hard/Full Swing: Let's have fun!

Labels can sometimes blur in definition and cross over between each other... so clear and proper communication always recommended to avoid disappointment or any unpleasantness.

Meet-ups:

Meet-ups can be arranged for drinks/coffee for a chat session before any play or some arrange for play straightaway. It's a personal preference.

Locations can vary from budget to 5 star hotels, apartments or for some... cars (uh.. not our thing).

Meet-ups can come in the form of 1-1 meet-ups or group events and parties.

• 1-1: Nothing much to be said. Both parties arrange among yourselves.
  
• Group hosted events: Location is provided for by a gracious host. Turn up and enjoy yourselves.
  
• Group Cost sharing parties: Cost of location, booze and others shared between everyone. A common arrangement.

Other terms:

BYOB: Bring your own Booze
BYOC: Bring your own Condoms
BYOT: Bring your own Towels


Points to note:

• Be respectful. No need for overly rude remarks or comments.
• Be honest to your partner - and the other couple/s.
• No RAW - unless its a common understanding between all parties.
• If it's not in the same room it's not swinging.

........ and finally HAVE FUN!

* To all experienced swingers feel free to post your advice, and newbies your questions *

Hi,

Thanks for the explanation, new to this.

[zothique]

Swingers gathering tonight ! After drinks and good music, we see how it goes......Nothing to lose.

Especially good for newbies like me and gf.

10 pm Saturday 11th August 2012.


PM me for details.

[porscheclub]

Great thread! My wife is also keen on this & we'll look out for any events or please PM me. Thanks

[CuriousCouple]

Originally Posted by porscheclub

Great thread! My wife is also keen on this & we'll look out for any events or please PM me. Thanks

Thanks!

Sir CC

[sw1nger]

Very good thread.

My gf and I are looking forward to the next meet.

Thanks

[bj lover]

Hi bro/Sis,

Have you tried those Swinging/orgy organized by AFF? Which i think are usually overseasstudents or expatsWhere they ask u for payment to their links which is those porno overseas website then to obtain an ID followed by payments by western union? Are those true?? Looks more of a scam? Anyone experence before!

[CuriousCouple]

Originally Posted by bj lover

Hi bro/Sis,

Have you tried those Swinging/orgy organized by AFF? Which i think are usually overseasstudents or expatsWhere they ask u for payment to their links which is those porno overseas website then to obtain an ID followed by payments by western union? Are those true?? Looks more of a scam? Anyone experence before!

Scam! AFF does not organize events. Events are organized by members.

[CuriousCouple]

Originally Posted by JezebelCandy

Hi TS, hang out tmrw? xoxo =)

What did you have in mind?

[bj lover]

Originally Posted by CuriousCouple

What did you have in mind?

Oops sorry, its member of AFF, but which they sent private massages to you requesting u do online payments followed by westen union.

[CuriousCouple]

Originally Posted by bj lover

Oops sorry, its member of AFF, but which they sent private massages to you requesting u do online payments followed by westen union.

Still a scam... Proper organizers never charge unless it's for mutual sharing of costs for drinks, venue and snacks. Especially if its a legit swing session with real couples.

Commercial transactions would most likely involve a FL even if it was true.

But most likely a scam.

Cheers!
Sir CC

[CuriousCouple]

Originally Posted by JezebelCandy

Sun and Sand. A thong bikini =)

xoxo

Ah sounds interesting. Unfortunately we decided to take a family day.

Cheers!
Sir CC

[bj lover]

Originally Posted by CuriousCouple

Still a scam... Proper organizers never charge unless it's for mutual sharing of costs for drinks, venue and snacks. Especially if its a legit swing session with real couples.

Commercial transactions would most likely involve a FL even if it was true.

But most likely a scam.

Cheers!
Sir CC

Tks for the advice, their request is to send money to philipines using western union! to their organization.. ??? Haizz looks like i got a lot to learn from u guys about swinging/ orgies/etc.. Do let me join u guys if there is a outing or party. Cheers.

[Fan2seecpl]

a.aaaaaasssdd

[CuriousCouple]

Seems like ages since we started this thread... but also seems like not as many swingers as before.

Lol... it's been a while.