Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

as long as husband still young still has chance to earn good income...no harm to appeal...

For this, i am quite skeptical. What they look for is for is good income from the chap, not whether he has chance to earn good income. What happens in the future is hard to predict, but what is happening now can be access thru income statements. Besides income, they also access education level, family background. The next thing that many bros have not realised is that if your bx has been to singapore regularly for the few years before your marriage, the chances of her getting PR is also very low. ICA will have this idea that she's a WL at JC and no way will they approve PR for her.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by SingViet

For this, i am quite skeptical. What they look for is for is good income from the chap, not whether he has chance to earn good income. What happens in the future is hard to predict, but what is happening now can be access thru income statements. Besides income, they also access education level, family background. The next thing that many bros have not realised is that if your bx has been to singapore regularly for the few years before your marriage, the chances of her getting PR is also very low. ICA will have this idea that she's a WL at JC and no way will they approve PR for her.

I knew all the facts...and agreed with your statements...what this samster needs is hope...

i knew it's getting tougher after last GE 2011...but pls cont to appeal and nothing to lose...

i had helped to appeal before and written love letters to MOS, Home Affais...the then MOS had looked into the matter himself...couple was now living happily in sinkie and kids in school...

of course not all cases can be approved...example ger caught for criminal offences in sinkie...so please look at individual merits...

[ilovedoggie]

Originally Posted by Seletar

I go to the kopitiam there once a week, which one is you ? I used to sit alone no kaki, can join u?

I only sit there a few times so far late night

Wah how come so many ppl wan to join?

Did I owe anyone money? Hehe

Wednesday 7pm ok?

[vietboy]

Originally Posted by ilovedoggie

I only sit there a few times so far late night

Wah how come so many ppl wan to join?

Did I owe anyone money? Hehe

Wednesday 7pm ok?

U dont own money, u only own bia. Hahahah.
Joking lah.
Been there a few times. The zhi char not bad.
Me a few mths no go tat place liao.
If possible, will try to meet u guys on wed.
Interested to meet guys with e same "zhao yu".

[lugi]

Finally got back from a 7 days trip to Wetnam to visit my vb parents in AG. I agree that it is indeed an eye opener and is certainly pleased that I came back in one piece. The Cambodians also did not have a chance to own a piece of me despite the repeated "threats" that I will be sold there.

Spent the first day of my trip in HCMC, visiting my vb home in Q8, where she shared with another 6 person. It was still acceptable though the bed consist of a bamboo mat spread over a slab of flat concrete. Now I understand why she always says her lower back ache. As I have been into a no. of Vietnamese homes before, I shall not venture too much into this, although I would say that many Sillyporeans will be appalled that they could live in such conditions. Spent the night in a mini hotel in D8 which costs only 300k vnd.

On the morning of the 2nd day, we took a cab to the bus station in Q5 to catch the coach to AG. Was told the journey will take about 7-8 hours. The coach was comfortable enough and they kept playing Vietnamese stage shows which was completely alien to me. I kept asking my babe when we reach will reach. the first time she will reply "maximum 2 hours", and when 2 hours have passed, i will ask again and she will reply "Maximum...." u get the picture.

Finally, after the coach got on the carrier to cross the river, things started to liven up a bit as I started the padi fields, houses built on wooden stilts etc. I asked her whether her house is like this but she told me "Don worry lah, my house better, u worry more, I sell you to Kampuchia." Having come into unchartered territory, you can be sure I zipped my mouth. Throughout the journey, she did not have a chnace to rest well as she keeps getting calls from her family as to when she will arrive.

Finally, after I think about 8 hours, she said we alight. When I got out of the coach, I seemed to step back into time; the place was a little similiar to when I first came to Wetnam in 2004. There were not much modern buildings and there were few vehicles on the roads. At 7pm, the roads were already very quiet.
Took a short walk of about 10 mins, but seems like 20 mins as I was lugging my huge backpack containing presents for her folks. Bought Chivas at Changi Airport for her dad, medicated oil and plaster for her mum, several pieces of clothings from Ho Chi Minh for her 2 younger sisters. She told me not to worry so much about the gifts as her folks were simple folks.

After a few turns in the narrow alleys, I finally reached and was greeted with a few smiling folks who were waiting for me in the living room. The living room would be the size of the hall of a 1 room HDB flat and was not furnished at all. Half of it was already occupied by a small cupboard and a wooden bed. On top of the cupboard sits a 26 inch Panasonic plasma TV, which my VB bought for the family. I used my limited TV to greet them and they were very pleased that I made an effort to learn TV. I gave the presents to her folks and they took it.

They apologised to me for their home being so spartan and for their poor hospitality, saying they could not afford to prepare good food for me. I say think nothing of it and I suggest we adjourned outside for some food and drinks. Walked outside and we settled out eating pho and sinh to, which costs only about 15,000vnd and 8000vnd respectively. After the meal, I checked into a ngha nghi which costs only 200,000vnd. I had cheekily requested that my vb stay with me, but she says her papa will cut her head if she does so. So I spent my first night at Tri Ton at AG miserable and alone, sleeping on a hard foam mattress watching Charlie Angels on TV. Luckily, Cameron Diaz steamed up the room for me. I drifted off into slumberland dreaming of her....

To be continued...

[vietboy]

Bro lugi, is yur AG = An Giang?

[lugi]

Originally Posted by vietboy

Bro lugi, is yur AG = An Giang?

Yes, An Giang... are you getting married there?

[jackbl]

Originally Posted by ilovedoggie

Come la. I'm friendly to anyone.

Esp to VBs and bx-potential

[jackbl]

Originally Posted by Seletar

I go to the kopitiam there once a week, which one is you ? I used to sit alone no kaki, can join u?

The most handsome one is Doggie U will see many VBs surrounding him

[jackbl]

Originally Posted by vietboy

Me a few mths no go tat place liao.

Cos u been to big places giving out big money to VBs I saw that in your postings on those KTVs

[jackbl]

Originally Posted by lugi

Yes, An Giang... are you getting married there?

If not wrong, he is linked with Long Xuyen, capital of An Giang province

[lugi]

After a restless night dreaming of Cameron, I was awakened at 6a.m. in the morning with loud and urgent banging on the door. I thought that my worst fears have come true, that someone was attempting to break in and rob/kidnap me. As there were no peep hole, I peeped through the window curtains in the room to see who was outside. And I saw 2 giggling girls out there, my bx and her younger sister banging on the door. Was damn angry, as I did not rest well and they were playig a joke on me so early in the morning. But could not help smiling as well and they looked so silly... hahaha

Anyway, I was asked to wake up early to have breakfast and later my vb wants to bring me to some happening place. Washed up and went on her motorbike to a makeshift stall by the roadside. Next to the stall were hens and cocks, and a tied up horse. Also saw some cows grazing on a near barren patch of grassland about 20 m away. My Vb's uncle and auntie were there waiting for me. They just kept smiling at me and I smile even more brilliantly back at them. I think they were impressed by how city boys keep their pearlies white...

My breakfast came and I thought it was pulut hitam, albeit minus the coconut milk. But I was told that it was chao bo. And it was chock a block with bo parts, found liver, kidney, thigh, and another 2 to 3 parts don know what. Know I know why there are cows nearby... and a bowl only costs 20,000k vnd. Eat it with some chilli and ginger, it does taste good. 2 stray mongrels were eyeing for any leftovers ... I hope it is the leftovers and not us!I at about 8a.m., we hop onto her bike again and departed for the happening place, which I was told was up in the mountains. I was told that the place is called Lam Vien Nui Cam.

While travelling towards the mountains, really have the chance to take in the scenes of the countryside. Saw horses pulling carts, cows grazing in huge grasslands... children running around in dirty clothes and barefooted and seemingly very happy.. also saw school girls riding bicycles along the narrow road, the scenes were so classic... I was mesmerized with the scenic beauty when I saw a group of what seemed liked Cambodian men (dark skinned) having drinks at a stall by the roadside. Fear struck me immediately as my VB seemed to slow down when approaching them... could my worst fears play out here? Then suddenly, my VB says "Scared or not? Hahhaa..." Damn, she was pulling a fast one on me again and she seems to be enjoying it...

Finally reach the place and it was some sort of garden with hardly a soul there. Nothig to shout about, just saw a caged sun bear, snakes and a white monkey. Other than that, don't know why have to travel a distance to come here. My Vb asked me boring is it, want to go up the other mountain? I say no thanks, I'll rather go back. She says ok, her family waiting for me to have lunch with them. Just when we were about to depart, her mobile rang and she answered. She doesn't seem too happy after talking and told me that her grandma and auntie wants to see me. She says her grandma stays about 10 mins from her only. I thought here comes the inevitable... anyway she says only for a short time as she knows that I don't really like the idea.

On the way, we stopped for a glass of pam fruit juice, cannot remember what it is called in tv. It was quite refreshing and costs only 12,000vnd. When relaxing there, her phone rang again and it was her grandma asking when we will arrive. Seems like they are really urgent.

When we reached, her grandma was slicing some bo and doesn't seem in the least interested in seeing me However, her aunt was the vocal one, asking my vb about my background. She was telling me to visit again in Tet and I told my Vb no no... and she gave me a pinch.. haha.... my VB then told her aunt that I am not rich and cannot afford to travel so often. I could see her aunt's face change but she sounded sympathetic, saying that it is ok, 2 persons can work hard together and be happy. Before I left, my Vb suddenly asked me to pass 500k to each her grandma and her aunt, and secretly told me that it will be her money. Haha, seems like I am beginning to win the battle to psycho her...

After this, we went back to her house to have family with her family. Lunch consists of some fish soup, fried fish and a plate of vegetable. I was told that for countryside folks, this meal can be considered sumptuous. It was quite nice and they keep telling me to eat more, saying that I was too thin. I do agree, as her dad looks really fit even at 54. I motioned to her dad about his bulging biceps and he gave me a toothy grin and showed that he gained them from working in the fields. I gave him a thumbs up sign. I think at that moment, I won over his dad.

After lunch was over, his dad and mum bade me farewell as they need to go to work. His dad was a farmer and his mum sells the produce in the market, leaving his auntie there. My Vb then told me to give his auntie 500k as well, there was when my face changed. My VB then gave me the "Cambodian" look and I said ok lor, u win, wait till we leave this place. She gave me a strange look.
Anyway, LL lor, still handed over 500k.

After this, we leave and set off for our trip to Can Tho, where my VB wanted me to meet all her college friends and introduced me to them. I leave this part out as there's nothing much to share, except the part where we have to take a local bus to the bus station to catch a van to soc trang, and from there, take a cab to can tho. The local bus ride was damn bumpy and it was more than an hour long, and practically everyone was staring at me like I'm an alien. However, I do like the stares from some of the VBs in school uniform and I think I became their main topic of gossip for the day. haha. My VB was pinching me the whole journey and saying very happy hor

On the way, my VB phone rang non stop, with her relatives and family asking her when we will be getting married. She says so troublesome, don marry better. haha

This trip really opens my eyes up to rural vietnam, and some of the folks are really warm and nice. Despite the poverty there, I sense they have this quiet determination to want to make things better if given the opportunities. It was also an oppotunity for me to know her family and relatives better, and also how she will react in the face of familial pressures. I would say that she passes the test with flying colours. I hope things stay this way.

[lugi]

Originally Posted by jackbl

If not wrong, he is linked with Long Xuyen, capital of An Giang province

Thanks, seems like a no. of bros bx is in AG. Maybe next time can go there together..

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by lugi

Finally, after the coach got on the carrier to cross the river, things started to liven up a bit as I started the padi fields, houses built on wooden stilts etc. I asked her whether her house is like this but she told me "

After the meal, I checked into a ngha nghi which costs only 200,000vnd. I had cheekily requested that my vb stay with me, but she says her papa will cut her head if she does so. So I spent my first night at Tri Ton at AG miserable and alone, sleeping on a hard foam mattress

reminds me of my trip to Kien Giang last Sep...it is actually coach gets on to a ferry and crossed to mainland...

haha...that's what i was worried when i visited last time to my bg hse...luckily she still slept with me in the nha nghi...

[SureScore]

Originally Posted by lugi

This trip really opens my eyes up to rural vietnam, and some of the folks are really warm and nice. Despite the poverty there, I sense they have this quiet determination to want to make things better if given the opportunities. It was also an oppotunity for me to know her family and relatives better, and also how she will react in the face of familial pressures. I would say that she passes the test with flying colours. I hope things stay this way.

Wish you good luck and hope this turns up well.