Do you regret marrying? - Page 9

HonkyTonkyMan · #**121** 20-10-2014, 08:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Kuan Aik Hong

Conclusion is that if not ready for commitments and sacrifice better stay out from the marriage game.

Hai it doesn't make a difference, even if one is ready for all these, it still takes two hands to clap..

Johnbass · #**122** 20-10-2014, 08:35 PM

Before marrying, we have to ask ourselves...
Can we live with the imperfections/habits of our partner?

Rather than...
How can I change my partner?

july3rd · #**123** 21-10-2014, 02:43 AM

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Originally Posted by fion.18

Omg this kinda story I like. I'm curious, are u guys still tgt?

Wah jitao drama but that is life,. I guess they might not be together liao hahaha Something similar happen to me donkey years ago but diff la he was the one supportive to me but I'm the one waited for him after that. Life... -.-

july3rd · #**124** 21-10-2014, 02:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Johnbass

Before marrying, we have to ask ourselves... Can we live with the imperfections/habits of our partner? Rather than... How can I change my partner?

So true lo

loneyheart · #**125** 21-10-2014, 02:18 PM

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Originally Posted by july3rd

There was once, I do volunteer work I speak to a old man around 60 plus 70 at day care centre. He said today you all (volunteer group) come here, I don't need take taxi go red light district to find girl talk to me. I'm shocked.

He told me, he can't stand his wife for nearly 40 years. When his kids all grown up, he frequent go those places to find people chat with him. Give those woman 20 to 50 bucks few hours. Just chit chat make him feel loved and concern. Rather then going back home after day care centre, see his wife angry face. Anyway, he talk so much to me that day. Can feel his loneliness, despite showing off his kids are doing well, etc

I used to wear color lens on those old man, at coffee shop talking to those beer girl or there china woman sitting chatting with them, to me is very disgusting, after chatting with that old man my view towards them changed.

I will think maybe because wife passed away, wife too fierce, they are lonely?

These r most of t silence Good Lonely Man in present SG ... they just dum want to tear apart t family n quietly accepted as what ppl branded him as DOM

loneyheart · #**126** 21-10-2014, 02:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Lamborghini

I've never been married but I believe a woman is always a man's pillar of support regardless the situation.

I met a girl during my early school days and she had been by my side through the storm. She loved me, she motivated me, and she stood by me all the time.

When I graduated, I found a decent job. I saved well and planned for our future. However, a business opportunity came and I placed my savings on it. As always, she supported the idea whole heartedly but unfortunately within 14 months, everything went downhill and I lost my funds. I was young, relatively lost but she picked me up. Instead of faulting me, she encouraged me to carry on and even shared the responsibility.

Few months later, I had the chance to embark on a job which I've always dream of. The first 18 months was going to be tough with the very low pay and the responsibilities we had on our shoulders. But she encouraged me to go out and achieve my dream. This road was painful as most of the 18 months I was living overseas and the funds were really really tight. It was a such a struggle but her words were always positive. She did small jobs on the side during weekend to ensure the burden was lightened.

I will never forget her.

Such a nice n heart warming encounter ( as a respect I dum call it a story ) ... but ... why U cant b together ??

Lamborghini · #**127** 21-10-2014, 06:54 PM

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Originally Posted by fion.18

Omg this kinda story I like. I'm curious, are u guys still tgt?

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Originally Posted by loneyheart

Such a nice n heart warming encounter ( as a respect I dum call it a story ) ... but ... why U cant b together ??

One always has to be ready for what lies ahead as nothing is cast in stone.

Nevertheless, life goes on.

Have a good holiday.

HonkyTonkyMan · #**128** 22-10-2014, 11:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Johnbass

Before marrying, we have to ask ourselves...
Can we live with the imperfections/habits of our partner?

Rather than...
How can I change my partner?

Well unfortunately it would seems it mainly the women folks that expect you to change to adapt to them and not a matter of both parties accepting each other flaws..

Johnbass · #**129** 22-10-2014, 11:41 AM

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Originally Posted by HonkyTonkyMan

Well unfortunately it would seems it mainly the women folks that expect you to change to adapt to them and not a matter of both parties accepting each other flaws..

Erm... Later the chiobus say u sexist hor... Lol

Good man/women are hard to find bah... Need some luck also.

HonkyTonkyMan · #**130** 22-10-2014, 11:46 AM

hai anyway for me my anniversary is next weekend but i already lost all motivation and impetus to do any planning anymore...i find for her what she wants is just a picture perfect family or husband to show her friends her married life is good and let others envy. But other than that, she is more happy to entertain her group of faggots guys friends. She can at one call from them if they feeling down after a fight with one of their own faggots kind, drop everything and go and console them but yet don't see the need to di anything about our marriage.

Johnbass · #**131** 22-10-2014, 11:52 AM

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Originally Posted by HonkyTonkyMan

hai anyway for me my anniversary is next weekend but i already lost all motivation and impetus to do any planning anymore...

Hmm... Maybe focus more on the daily stuffs and how to improve communication?
Don't do the anniversary thing for the sake of doing it.

surbana · #**132** 22-10-2014, 12:18 PM

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Originally Posted by HonkyTonkyMan

hai anyway for me my anniversary is next weekend but i already lost all motivation and impetus to do any planning anymore...i find for her what she wants is just a picture perfect family or husband to show her friends her married life is good and let others envy. But other than that, she is more happy to entertain her group of faggots guys friends. She can at one call from them if they feeling down after a fight with one of their own faggots kind, drop everything and go and console them but yet don't see the need to di anything about our marriage.

Woman very superficial one.....never show her jia latz side...

HonkyTonkyMan · #**133** 22-10-2014, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Johnbass

Hmm... Maybe focus more on the daily stuffs and how to improve communication?
Don't do the anniversary thing for the sake of doing it.

its not due to a lack of trying on my part bro, everyday to her is on her iphone texting with friends watching dramas..no action or effort on her part to move this marriage along...every time try to get fresh abit she push me away say no mood no time etc or the usual woman crap excuses...i already enough of this and decide time for me to move on and look for my own satisfaction whether its my emotional needs sexual needs...the most depressing part is realizing that short of a divorce, I have to spend the rest of my life under such circumstances.

HCKing · #**134** 22-10-2014, 02:03 PM

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Originally Posted by HonkyTonkyMan

its not due to a lack of trying on my part bro, everyday to her is on her iphone texting with friends watching dramas..no action or effort on her part to move this marriage along...every time try to get fresh abit she push me away say no mood no time etc or the usual woman crap excuses...i already enough of this and decide time for me to move on and look for my own satisfaction whether its my emotional needs sexual needs...the most depressing part is realizing that short of a divorce, I have to spend the rest of my life under such circumstances.

that's y if wanna marry in sg must die die confirm the wife is a good stock. otherwise we guys r farked regardless of getting a divorce or continue to struggle with the meaningless marriage.

Captainoceania77 · #**135** 23-10-2014, 10:09 AM

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Originally Posted by HonkyTonkyMan

its not due to a lack of trying on my part bro, everyday to her is on her iphone texting with friends watching dramas..no action or effort on her part to move this marriage along...every time try to get fresh abit she push me away say no mood no time etc or the usual woman crap excuses...i already enough of this and decide time for me to move on and look for my own satisfaction whether its my emotional needs sexual needs...the most depressing part is realizing that short of a divorce, I have to spend the rest of my life under such circumstances.

Most of my friends has the same situation like yours. They dont wanna divorce is because of responsibility only. The reasons are that children needs a proper family.