Do you regret marrying?

[Kuan Aik Hong]

Originally Posted by Greenfrog

When you marry for the sake of marriage, you are bound to regret.

My parents are divorced, and my mother only have this thing to say to me; 'Finding no partner is better than finding the wrong one.'

Sometimes i can't help to wonder, are there a lot of couples out there that marry for the sake of marriage?

Mostly just wanna marry for the sake only , just feels that is the right time to settle down lar. Many are living in fantasy thinking marriage very easy to manage and stay together until old age.

[Jevv]

Originally Posted by Kuan Aik Hong

Mostly just wanna marry for the sake only , just feels that is the right time to settle down lar. Many are living in fantasy thinking marriage very easy to manage and stay together until old age.

marry for the sake of marrying is like:
80%- bcoze its time (some may be in their 30s, frens all ard are married...by staying single is like the odd one out)
20%- bcoze i found the right woman (but seriously...years down the road, can one still stick by this belief??)

like some say...b4 marriage & after marriage, the woman changes..

my fren told me b4..his wife does not put him as priority as a husband which he long ago have accepted his 'fate'...b4 marriage, wife very submissive..aft marriage & wit 2 kids, can still point fingers & play the blame game..

[sunhuan-con]

Originally Posted by Jevv

marry for the sake of marrying is like:
80%- bcoze its time (some may be in their 30s, frens all ard are married...by staying single is like the odd one out)
20%- bcoze i found the right woman (but seriously...years down the road, can one still stick by this belief??)

like some say...b4 marriage & after marriage, the woman changes..

my fren told me b4..his wife does not put him as priority as a husband which he long ago have accepted his 'fate'...b4 marriage, wife very submissive..aft marriage & wit 2 kids, can still point fingers & play the blame game..

Womans nature is to put priority over the children over the hubby . Because hubby sperm is use in producing children lar.

[Boinkboinkboink]

Ummm, there's this wise wise wise words I found curved in a uni toilet (men's of course) in Arizona many years ago.

"Before marriage a man is incomplete, after that he's finished"

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by sunhuan-con

Womans nature is to put priority over the children over the hubby . Because hubby sperm is use in producing children lar.

true, when my wife was working in office work when she left as trolley dolly, I asked her to come back for dinner, for 2 years, never did it. Didn't even message to tell me if she is late home even after I asked her to, fought about it countless times, most days 9-10pm eating her dinner outside so I always eat alone. When she was flying, I also always eat alone. Cook for her, she doesn't even eat much. So just imagine 1 person eating leftovers all the time, whole pots of soup, congee for days. You get my drift?
Its as if I have no wife. Communication nothing.

Now we have a child, everything is about the child, she rushes home after work, reach home 7pm. Still I don't get to eat with her, but at least can see her face and have short conversations which result in her throwing her famous temper. Almost gave up on the marriage, but after 7 years, we had a child. Funny when we wanted it, nothing happened, when we gave up, the baby came along

Once married, I was no longer a priority. Don't know what happened, but I have come to accept it. Surrender to fate. I just stay together for the child. She does her thing, I do mine, we don't talk about our work, or anything, if there is a conversation its about the child.

[Boinkboinkboink]

WL words "我不会和一个客人在一起，应为不希望我的另一半知道我有这样的一段过去"

Just noticed this from bro Shadow warrior's sig. Profound.

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by Boinkboinkboink

WL words "我不会和一个客人在一起，应为不希望我的另一半知道我有这样的一段过去"

Just noticed this from bro Shadow warrior's sig. Profound.

yes bro, part 2 of a bad marriage is going out to find greener grass.

WL/FL kenna KC by them, thinking you will leave your marriage for them, and you found love. Till you look at a lady who can sell their bodies for money. (well technically, some high level executives also do it, look at CNB and SCDF case where the woman sleep with the client for the business, or some private bankers)

A lady who can do that has a different way of looking at life. So out of the pan into the fire. These days, just screw it, get up, try to live your life happy, and don't regret too much.

[Boinkboinkboink]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

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WL/FL kenna KC by them, thinking you will leave your marriage for them, and you found love. Till you look at a lady who can sell their bodies for money. (well technically, some high level executives also do it, look at CNB and SCDF case where the woman sleep with the client for the business, or some private bankers)

Yea, CNB and SCDF heads were "given heads" I guess.

Hmmm, dare I going down ur level of cynicism, I may say then that isn't marriage is so damn close to an institutionalized prost*tut*on?

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

A lady who can do that has a different way of looking at life. So out of the pan into the fire. These days, just screw it, get up, try to live your life happy, and don't regret too much.

Happy. No regret. We are all still human, are we?

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by Boinkboinkboink

Yea, CNB and SCDF heads were "given heads" I guess.

Hmmm, dare I going down ur level of cynicism, I may say then that isn't marriage is so damn close to an institutionalized prost*tut*on?


Happy. No regret. We are all still human, are we?

haha...I once thought if I went out with a ex WL/FL I would have the best sex in the world(see my signature thread) but eons later, I was having none, because I wasn't technically paying her. Truth be said, you are, paying with your time, you take her out, buy her stuff, take care of her, but now, you are getting nothing but her "love". Compared to those who paid to have sex with her, they probably got hotter better sex because both sides knew what was the game. When emotions, papers, children come in, marriage becomes love's graveyard. The same happens with marriage.

[Boinkboinkboink]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

haha...I once thought if I went out with a ex WL/FL I would have the best sex in the world(see my signature thread) but eons later, I was having none, because I wasn't technically paying her.

Paying with the wrong currency leh.

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

Truth be said, you are, paying with your time, you take her out, buy her stuff, take care of her, but now, you are getting nothing but her "love".

I think they also think that "love" is different from "sex".

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

Compared to those who paid to have sex with her, they probably got hotter better sex because both sides knew what was the game.

Not really la. "Probably" and "better" are very tricky words, you know.

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

When emotions, papers, children come in, marriage becomes love's graveyard. The same happens with marriage.

Then, don't have children lor. Oops.

[the_e_ones]

Originally Posted by sunhuan-con

Womans nature is to put priority over the children over the hubby . Because hubby sperm is use in producing children lar.

Bro sunhuan-con, had returned your nice gesture!

Cheers and Enjoy!

[maxman]

An elderly man said to me that marriage is, in some ways, legalized prostitution. In the good old days when men were mostly the sole breadwinners, they went out to work and returned home with the bacon to have their wives cook, clean and service them. When the man is out of work, cannot bring home the money, the wife also stops performing "her part of the deal".

Today, as many dual income couples (both men and women working) become common, and as women grow increasingly capable of earning a high(er) income, they are not "bounded" to serve their husbands like decades ago. Studies show that more women than men initiate divorce.

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by Boinkboinkboink

Paying with the wrong currency leh.

I think they also think that "love" is different from "sex".

Not really la. "Probably" and "better" are very tricky words, you know.

Then, don't have children lor. Oops.

Bro do you have anything to share on your experiences? seems you just reply smart comments to others experiences.

[Boinkboinkboink]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

Bro do you have anything to share on your experiences? seems you just reply smart comments to others experiences.

Not just smart comments, but then comments are based on experiences. Not good at narration I'd say.

[topcook1]

Originally Posted by maxman

An elderly man said to me that marriage is, in some ways, legalized prostitution. In the good old days when men were mostly the sole breadwinners, they went out to work and returned home with the bacon to have their wives cook, clean and service them. When the man is out of work, cannot bring home the money, the wife also stops performing "her part of the deal".

Today, as many dual income couples (both men and women working) become common, and as women grow increasingly capable of earning a high(er) income, they are not "bounded" to serve their husbands like decades ago. Studies show that more women than men initiate divorce.

First time heard someone says marriage is legal prostitution. I reckon is much worst than prostitution because the husband has no much choice to change partner and have to take care of the wife until she is old in terms of monetary wise.