Should I give her another chance

[he-man11]

On behalf of a good brother of mine. For easy typing, I will relate the subject as myself.

GF of 5 yrs. i'm 30, she's 27. i watched her change from a spoilt little princess into someone who loves eating at coffee shops and watch what she spends. she's still a little naive in her thinking and at times not the most responsible person due to her sheltered upbringing.

other than the occasional quarrel when she gets her pms, we hardly ever quarrel out of this 5 yrs. people look at us as the perfect couple. she's treats me like her king and i pamper her like my little princess. i've never been with another girl who treats me the same way like she does. not even close. as a bonus, sex life is amazing. even after these yrs, we still can't wait to jump into bed and get it on like a pair of horny rabbits.

she has a bad habit of lying though. nothing major in the beginning. things like where she went and who she was with. and when confronted, she will cover with stories after stories until she's presented with cold hard evidence would she admit it. thats human nature i guess. so well, i forgave her time after time and things actually improved(or maybe she just got better at it) that i managed to trust her completely.

we talked about marriage and we intended to do it in a yrs time. she's the first that i actually wanted to marry. and for a fact, she wants to get married to me for the longest time. just that my financials are not stable yet.

cut the story short, she went on an overseas trip and met another guy. 4 yrs younger than her. i don't know what the guy did to her but it managed to convince her that she deserves to be treated much better and she broke up with me 2 weeks after knowing him. that guy bought her a ticket and she flew over to spend time with him. she told me she's there just to get away from everything and clear her mind. we all know thats not the case. wanting to fight for the women i love, i flew over to try to win her back.

unfortunately, the worst had happened. she slept with him on her 2nd night there. and guess what, i forgave her and ask her to come back with me. she eventually agreed to come back with me saying that now she realised how much i really love her, she saw how hurt i am, her mind was clouded and she didn't know what the hell she was doing, and she really regretted it.

fast-forward 1 week after we're back in sg and decided to start anew, she contacted that guy again and they are back to the lovey-dovey messages and phone calls everyday again. my heart really died this time and i initiated a break up.(first time from me). she's devastated now. crying everyday and begging me to give her 1 last chance. btw, all the things i found out are through endless questionings and cover-up stories.

it seems like a pretty straight-forward case here. the normal rational would be to move on and find someone else who truly deserves my love. infact i would advice the same to someone else. but when u r so in love with someone and u're in it yourself, it's just so difficult. based on the fact that this is the first time she's realising that she's really losing me for good, will she really learn her lesson?(im thinking that she didn't learn her lesson the previous time bcuz i always forgive her too easily) she's still in contact with that guy now but she didn't jump to him now. it would be alot easier for her to do that but she didn't and instead just wants me back so badly. is that worth considering giving her another chance?

i know what the rational thinking should be. infact i'm trying to move on but it hurts so much cuz i really love her alot.

bros out there who had shared similar experience, i would love to hear what u did and wat was the outcome.

sisters out there, pls share with me your views as a women cuz there are certain things we men would never understand.

Thank you everyone.


broken hearted man

[KiasuUncle]

Bro,

if i am u, i could have kicked her far from my sight..

A gal who loves u will never sleep with another man.....if now she still contact with that man. U never know when she will sleep with him again. Cos u are not with her the whole time.

But is up to ur decision. But i think there are more gals deserve your love in this world....Good luck!!

[he-man11]

thanks for your reply bro..

she slept with him after she broke up with me. that guy lives in another country. it's either she goes over or he comes over

[alan0338]

u shouldnt dump her, if she can attract another guy means she at least is those kind of buay pai gal, suggest to continue fucking her and ignore wat she do, then in the meantime hunt for another gal who truly deserves u...

[SBCheongSter]

If that guy is an angmo, I will say that she had fallen into his sweet talking trap. If you really love her and still want to continue being with her, tell her to stop contacting that guy. If she is willing to, very likely that she still wanted to be with you. If she is not willing to or if she still continue to lie to you and secretly contact that guy (you can obviously find out if you wanted to), then I will say you should just drop her off.
Sometimes, girls are just being playful and who doesn't like sweet talkings etc. Even us guys love that as well.
So I will say up to you to judge whether she can stop contacting that guy. She knows that guy cannot provide her anything other than companion and sex and fun but you can provide her everything she needs.
But in her mind, she still want thrill.

So if she can promise not to contact that guy anymore, then will be good.

[he-man11]

Originally Posted by SBCheongSter

If that guy is an angmo, I will say that she had fallen into his sweet talking trap. If you really love her and still want to continue being with her, tell her to stop contacting that guy. If she is willing to, very likely that she still wanted to be with you. If she is not willing to or if she still continue to lie to you and secretly contact that guy (you can obviously find out if you wanted to), then I will say you should just drop her off.
Sometimes, girls are just being playful and who doesn't like sweet talkings etc. Even us guys love that as well.
So I will say up to you to judge whether she can stop contacting that guy. She knows that guy cannot provide her anything other than companion and sex and fun but you can provide her everything she needs.
But in her mind, she still want thrill.

So if she can promise not to contact that guy anymore, then will be good.

when she decided to come back with me to sg, i made her cut contact with that guy. deleted and block him off facebook, whatsapp etc... she promised not to contact that guy ever again since she decided to choose me.

but she started to miss him again cuz she really did fall for him. so she took the risk to contact him again.

now she's promising that she will definitely cut contact with him once and for all if i give her a chance. problem is she promised me the same thing before. i dunno if i can trust her anymore.

[joscklee]

Good horse doesn't eat return head grass

[Hurricane88]

I will not bother with her...there is a forest out there...why bother with one tree...unless you think you cannot get other gals...

[porscheclub]

She's a lying slut.

Sorry for saying this but do yourself a favour & check that you're clean after few months.

[Tom83]

Hi Bro

I saw similar experience before on my relative. Man would seek forgiveness after woman spotted the mistake. Man repeatedly commit the mistake after forgiveness was given by woman. They ended with broke off after woman could not take it any more.

Hope this help

[Tom83]

Hi bro

I saw a similar experience on my relative. Man would ask for forgiveness after lady spotted the mistake. Man then repeatedly commit the mistake after each forgiveness. Lady eventually broke off with the man after she could not take it any more

Hope this help

[fictionman]

Why would you give her another chance is beyond me bro...Her actions behind ur cock wz another cock surely cant be 4given rite...

But then again,its ur call bro...If its me, NO WAY JOSE

[he-man11]

Originally Posted by Tom83

Hi bro

I saw a similar experience on my relative. Man would ask for forgiveness after lady spotted the mistake. Man then repeatedly commit the mistake after each forgiveness. Lady eventually broke off with the man after she could not take it any more

Hope this help

thanks for sharing the experience bro.

what i did is beyond me as well. i really can't explain it either.

[Ahlcey]

Bro. its painful for sure, but I wouldn't suggest you take her back. If she could easily throw such a long relationship down the road for some new guy she met, it probably wont end well in the future. take some time alone, move on, and find someone that truly appreciates you bro.

All the best.

[Tai_zi21]

Asked urself does she deserve a second chance?

To me answer is no! Check out my signature