I need to quit this

[sk8erb0i]

Was out of the scene for a good 3years. But somehow got dragged back and getting frequent yet again. Advice on how to officially stop

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by sk8erb0i

Was out of the scene for a good 3years. But somehow got dragged back and getting frequent yet again. Advice on how to officially stop

You only live once so enjoy to the max!!!!

[kingcrock69]

If you want to quit. Don't ever come here and don't ever visit those website that offer those service.

[Soul83]

Originally Posted by kingcrock69

If you want to quit. Don't ever come here and don't ever visit those website that offer those service.

Sometimes the stuff just suddenly pop up when u are surfing online and temptations are real.

[Etacs1979]

Kill your account bro

[PrivateRyan]

Sbf forever bro, even ahgong cannot block it hehe

[sk8erb0i]

Originally Posted by Etacs1979

Kill your account bro

I already deleted back then. Created a new one to be able to make bookings.

[jackjackoff]

Originally Posted by sk8erb0i

I already deleted back then. Created a new one to be able to make bookings.

Might consider Sex addiction and Porn Anonymous counselling group. They have weekly meet up. You can Google to find out more. Wish you the best.

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by sk8erb0i

Was out of the scene for a good 3years. But somehow got dragged back and getting frequent yet again. Advice on how to officially stop

why try? one day your part cannot work, or you are gone, its the end.

now just live, someday you want also cannot.

[janu]

Every time you go for one, just PayLah into a charity. You'll have a record of how much you spend and that may make you stop.

[gabrielboey]

quit chioonging ? dont need to quit lol

[alleycat]

i used to think this way, that i had to quit this, because of social constructs that dictates chionging is cheating, betray spouse etc etc. Turns out i often struggled internally and it made me a bitter person as I am in a dead bedroom situation. This resulted in giving black face at home to wife n kids.. and i ain't proud of being a ill tempered hubby/father.

I figured its better to go chiong once a while to get it out of my system so i can go back and function as a better husband and dad. As long as play safe and discreetly. Thus, i chiong probably once every few months. Just $100 a pop for release.

If you wanna quit because you worry how people see you.. no one cares. You might constantly question yourself and have lots of internal battles while managing your libido. Might as well just go for it and have one less issue to worry about.

You only quit if you finally do not have the urge anymore or if you are 1000% determined to do so. Ultimately, you do you.

[jackjackoff]

thanks bro for sharing. you mind sharing if your sex life with your wife is dead that's why you cheong outside. will like to hear your advice for a junior cheongster before deciding on marriage.

[alleycat]

Originally Posted by jackjackoff

thanks bro for sharing. you mind sharing if your sex life with your wife is dead that's why you cheong outside. will like to hear your advice for a junior cheongster before deciding on marriage.

Actually I started chionging only at age 37. By then I was already married for 11 years. Marriage is really like another job. U put in effort to romance the wife. Then kids arrive, another part of job that effort requires. End of the day, I find it totally worth the effort, money n time sacrifice.

Every marriage has their ups n downs. The one issue in mine was deadbedroom. It became really jialat after birth of second kid. I ever mentioned about this problem to wife but she just shrug it off. Plus she has stomach n uterus issues too, so i dont want to force it. I also can't suggest an open marriage, it'll put a strain on things as she can be jealous type.

My wife n i are fine with other stuffs like finance n kids. We hold hands when outside n give each other hugs n pecks on lips. Sometimes a bit of long kisses. Just no sex.

Before marriage, we'd fuck like 4 times a week. Now it's like once a year.

My decision to go chiong is actually to satiate that lust appetite so i dont go crazy stare at girls in mrt or take up skirt photos etc. We do need a sexual outlet, some more than others. If by pcc can settle, thats fine. But we also crave for the human touch. That's why i chiong maybe once a couple of months.

Once u understand how to compartmentalize things, it becomes easier to handle life.

And that took me years of internal struggle to understand this.

[jackjackoff]

thanks bro for this heartfelt, authentic, useful message. If there's a way to pin this for fellow junior cheongster, will definitely do it.

looks like i have a lot of work to do for pre-marriage discussion with my girl about sexual compatibility

I do believe most cheongsters in sbf can relate to your idea of compartmentalise things. Also want to wish you bro happy new year and of course happiness!